Should dna test be mandatory after birth??

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Personally I don’t feel like you should be out here just having kids with anyone , I’m married so if my husband asked for a paternity test I would be offended because the only way for the kid to not be his is me to have cheated , which means he would have to think that’s a possibility and to me that’s a problem.Now I do believe it should be required for people who are not married

Not mandatory. The system does not have enough resources for this and it’s pointless. The government should not have automatic access to the DNA of every baby born.

Also I think it would cause a lot more victims of rape to be murdered

I don’t think it’s should be mandatory but I think it should be freely available to any parent who asks

how should it be different for sexual assault? How is anyone going to know. If it’s mandatory at birth, then everyone has to do it.

And my husband does not need reassurance because we have a relationship based on respect and trust.

A father is free to go to court and get a court order for DNA if wanted. But I think this whole argument is deeply misogynistic.

No but I’m from the uk so it would be tax payers that paid. Theres not enough doctors, nurses ect to do all these tests and it would be a huge waste of money. Then there would also be the whole element of data protection and making sure the dna isn’t used elsewhere.

If my husband asked for a DNA test I'd give it to him but I'd also be giving him divorce papers 🤷

So just if any man is involved, then they should have a dna test? If a woman comes in alone, it’s fine not to test her and the baby? That’s stupid and makes no sense.

No. We should not be giving the government our children’s dna. If my husband needed that kind of reassurance, it would mean we do not have the trust and respect I thought and I would divorce him.

Any man who asks for this without other reasons or suspicions, is a bad guy.

No, because I don’t think that doubting women should be the default.

Yeah I agree that if the father wants one, then they should do one. But that’s how it is now, right? That’s nothing new. But forcing all new babies to have their dna in a system automatically is bad imo. Just because we don’t trust women? Nah.

And yes. If my husband came to me with no prior conversations or concerns and asked for a dna test on the kids, I would make a plan to leave. Or at the least go to couples therapy. Because obviously our relationship is not what o think it is

I don’t agree with it being mandatory. If a guy wants to pay for it with his own money he should be able to and there shouldn’t be any legal barriers for it (I’m not counting victims of sexual abuse in this scenario). Personally I wouldn’t want my tax money going to that and it sounds like more surveillance.

Depends on who is going to pay for it and how expensive it is going to be. If it's mandatory, will the insurance companies be required to pay or will it be the government with taxpayer money?

I think we should normalise picking better people to have kids with if you don’t trust them to not sleep with others. My religion safeguards me from this type of thing so I’m thankful for that .

If anything to be very honest, I think incarcerated men have more of a right to have their children dna tested at birth than any other men do.

Because anybody incarcerated literally only knows what others tell them about the outside world. Incarcerated fathers deserve to make sure their ¢’s per hour aren’t being garnished over a lie.

girl I agree with you! If our marriage has respect and TRUST why would you even doubt the baby is yours? I think it’s kinda rude I would definitely let his do the test but then that respect and trust is just broken I would feel disrespected especially if there are nothing funny going on.

Yes get those men the DNA test. If you have nothing to hide do it 🤷🏻‍♀️

If DNA tests are mandated, does that mean dirtbag men who abandon women are on lock for child support then?

I agree!! I've been saying this for many years long b4 becoming a mother.

I’m half and half with this because yes if u have NOTHING to hide as the mom then u shouldn’t have no issues doing it but on the mens end if you are going to question her why even proceed to have a baby with the her? NOW if there is something not adding up like the man was in jail for 3 months feb-may and the baby is being born in oct then that’s a reason to get a dna test or if the women is cheating and u are unsure then go for it and ask.

100% NOT mandatory.

I think it should be optional but not mandatory to where everyone has to. If the potential father wants it he should be able to but if they don’t want to that should be fine too.

I don’t believe it needs to be mandatory because men do get that option for a dna test in court. For example, child support and custody. If the parents split up because the wife was caught cheating or he thinks she was cheating and she takes him for child support and or custody of the child he can request it there. Which I’m totally for. However in a monogamous happy marriage I see no need for it. All it will do is cause unnecessary tension and raise our insurance premiums. There are roughly 3.6 million births a year. Someone needs to pay for that. If it’s our insurance our premiums will increase, if it’s out of pocket that’s a huge bill that a lot can’t afford right now, if the state covers it then our taxes go through the roof.

I honestly just haven’t really thought about this because in my relationship, my husband has no doubt in his mind and fully trusts our child is his (because he is..)

But I do see the point and I honestly don’t think it’s that hot of a take. I think men who are unsure definitely have a right to know, but it does feel a bit like if that’s even up in the air, this relationship might be on the rocks as it is. And I think it’s just another thing that people who are confident in their paternity would have to pay for which feels a bit unfair if you can’t opt out. Genetic testing is notttt cheap

Maybe only if they want child support

Im not sure how i feel about this but everyone knew our baby was my husband she looked just like him 🤣

I don’t want my baby’s dna being taken and possibly sold or collected by the government

Thank you all for your answers 🫶🏽

I seen a post similar to this awhile back and most of the comments were people saying we should trust woman. I 100% think it should be mandatory I personally don't think we can trust ALL woman (not everyone but there are some) and personally if my partner asked for a DNA test on our children I would do it but I couldn't stay with him after that 🤷 but at the same time men deserve to be 100% certain it's their own kids they're bringing up

It would solve a lot of problems and cause different ones at the same time lol

Mandatory no. But if you don’t have a good relationship with someone and they request paternity they should be able to easily get it if they are to pay child support or be financially responsible for the child.

I agree. If hospitals did a mandatory test at birth it can save lots of heartbreak. Had a coworker who didn’t find out till 5 years his daughter wasn’t his when they split and he wanted custody. He was holding back tears talking about it. If it’s mandatory no one’s feelings would get hurt by the dad asking for one. I don’t think men should be shamed for wanting proof that the child they will be legally responsible for 18 years is actually their kid

The fact that we live in a society where this topic is even discussed is extremely disturbing. My religious based conscience would never allow my behavior, mental state, or reality to ever need a DNA test because my husband is the only man I would ever be with. I will not blame this line of question on culture, or the overall society. It is clearly an example that we are living in the end of days.

Mandatory? Who is going to mandate it, exactly? Who is paying for it? Why are men trying to have babies with women that they don't trust in the slightest?

If men are so inclined, they can go pay for a paternity test after the child is born. The mother doesn't have to be involved at all, and if he values his relationship, he'd be smart to not mention it.

Me and my partner spoke about this because he jokingly said he wanted a DNA test for our little girl (he 10000% knows she is his) and we were saying it would be a good idea, however I can see the bad side aswell as in it could put the mum and baby in danger in some cases. Idk it’s a tricky one really to give a straight answer

I do not think it should be mandatory but I agree men should have rights to ask for a test if they have doubts the baby may not be theirs. If we were to flip roles and assume men are the child bearers, I wouldn’t want to be denied that request if I have doubts myself. However, it is unnecessary if both partners are in a committed relationship and they trust each other.

I do think men who end up being victims of these unfortunate incidents deserve support. But I also believe people shouldn’t ignore red flags or silence their doubts out of fear of conflict. If there are genuine concerns, it’s reasonable to address them early rather than stay in the dark for so long.

Its interesting to notice that a lot of the comments do not hold women accountable or even mention how women deceive men into raising children that arent theirs. Someone in the comments even told me i sound misogynistic because i dont think its ok for women to do that. Very interesting answers here. Thank you

Women that lie about paternity are held accountable. That's a rare circumstance to begin with, and to be suspicious of all women can definitely be construed as sexist. If a man thinks no woman can be trusted, and for some reason still chooses to impregnate one, he can pay for the test. No one is stopping him.

So far the majority have voted they dont mind.

I think it's double standard no matter what if it's something the father wants .. why not it could improve his mental health..his connection why wouldn't you want to shrink his doubts for that ..you can be humble for a minute if you got nothing to hide.

I keep getting notifications because I commented lol this is getting heated but I think if it’s mandatory it wouldn’t be really offensive because then it’s no one questioning your fidelity personally. It’s a requirement for everyone to avoid when this does happen so there’s no question. Being offended if you were asked personally by your SO is understandable. But if it’s mandated then it’s not them not trusting you. Also, there’s a lot of things in place that we as citizens pay for through taxes that benefit women/children/families. I don’t think it’s a reach to have something like that in place to protect and benefit men. If you put yourself in the other genders shoes it would be devastating to find out a child isn’t yours that you’ve been caring for their whole life. Also, seemingly trustworthy people cheat everyday. That’s how they get away with it male or female. You don’t suspect them.

The objection I have is with the word “mandatory” if you mean when the father requests one should it be completed without the wait time courts bring? ABSOLUTELY

if you mean mandatory like every single child born needs to be dna tested against their parents I’d say 1.) we don’t have the resources for such a thing, paternity test results take anywhere from 1-2 days when expedited fees are paid, all the way up to two weeks. Would we just send people to court (with their newborns) to get their results? Or would they be kept in the hospital?
2.) you’d need a solid reason as to why you want to dna test every single child born. “Because men have the right to know”. Wouldn’t hold up in a world where men can already request paternity testing. Perhaps “because we don’t want anyone leaving with the wrong child” would go over better in legalese 🤷‍♀️

Mandatory only if it also includes general genetic testing for potential abnormalities, and is free.

There are also same sex couples who have kids where the other parent isn’t biologically related, but is still the child’s other parent. So no, it shouldn’t be mandatory.

I don’t think it should be mandatory, but I think everyone should have rights, especially if someone is questioning the legality of being the dad or whatever

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I dont think it should be mandatory because the majority of people do not cheat. If you suspect its not yours thats a conversation to have with your partner.

But it’s def right to request it ! There are there for a reason :)