Dad and daughter

My partner seems to be really down recently because in his words “the baby loves me more than him” simply because she only really laughs for me. I don’t know how many times I can tell him that’s not the case, because her face lights up whenever he walks in a room and he gets the occasional laugh, and he can always put her to sleep. But he just won’t accept that and it’s getting him really down. What can I do for him/ how can I help him? I know it must be hard for him to go to work everyday but he does spend as much time as he can with her in the evenings and weekends🩷 I hate seeing him down I just don’t know what I can say/do

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My other half went through this recently but is ok now cause baby has stared laughing at him and at the time I just reminded him that she had done something with him that she didn’t with me so he was ok xx

At the start my partner was same cz everytime he had her she cried and I mean cried and when he passes her to me she stopped i had to keep telling him she lobes him 2 and when it comes to laughing I'm the only one who can make she really laugh my family can make her laugh and my partner can but she really laughs just for me

May be try recording videos of her during the day where she says Dada or waiting by the door looking for Dada. You can ask her to look for Dada and record her reaction that she’s actually looking for him, and send it to him while he’s at work. x I’m going through the opposite actually my baby gets excited when she sees her Dad or Nana but not me.😁 Probably because I spent 24x7 with her !

In the nicest way, this might be a tough love situation. Remind him babies aren't rational beings. Babies don't really love, they NEED. He's not being rejected, he's still the second favourite person in her world but at the moment you fulfill most of her needs so it's very normal for her to have a preference for you. His day will come and you'll need to be the one to remember it's not personal. For most of my childhood my dad was my favourite, we didn't see him all week, then he'd come home all happy to see us with a present wanting to play when my mum had been bossing us about all week lol. My daughter had a VERY strong mama preference, after a difficult start with a NICU stay she was very attached to me so I think that exacerbated things and although of course it did get to my husband sometimes I will forever be so proud of him for all the effort he's made to get them to the amazing bond they have now. It took YEARS and he didn't ever try to blame it on me, or her, or use it to shirk responsibility.

Maybe look into some postpartum mental health services for him? I kept getting a lot of information in antenatal classes about how it can affect men too. Also, maybe have him read to baby at night? My baby loves the sound of her dad's voice and just stops to listen to him

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?