Ladies proposing

Have you spoken about it before? How does he feel about women proposing? Some men hate the idea of it and demasculating them.

Surely if he was going to get married he would make an exception for wearing a wedding ring? Is there a reason why he doesn’t wear jewellery anymore?

im giving my partner a sword, either when I propose or he does as he doesn't wear jewellery

(Idk your man but if he likes fish or the ocean this one is super cool https://www.etsy.com/listing/1186684722/dainty-solid-925-sterling-silver-small)

(Also this one is cute too! https://www.etsy.com/listing/1184956630/solid-925-sterling-silver-four-leaf)

Watch with an inscription?

Maybe you could do one of those star maps for your first date &/or a custom engraved wallet? These are just some anniversary gifts I’ve gotten for my hubs, but I really don’t see any reason to try to pay as much as he would probably pay for a ring, I’d stick to making sure the sentiment is there, not that the price matches, if that makes sense. Also, if he’s into tattoos you could maybe give a gift certificate, so he could choose his own new “bling” to symbolize the occasion, but I do understand how some feel about gift cards, but I’d love one for a tattoo parlor myself. Now I didn’t exactly propose to my hubs, I was the one who originally asked him out, but he & I agreed to no marriage. After a decade together I realized that I wouldn’t be against marriage, w/him, anymore, but I also didn’t need marriage or want him to feel like I did, just bc I had this epiphany, I was going to keep growing older w/him no matter what. It took me months to figure out how to tell him this, bc this….

Love love love these ideas! And much closer to my initial ideas but worried it looked cheap by comparison to a ring! It’s just the other day we were talking about engagement and weddings and he was saying how he would feel inadequate about getting a cheaper ring (our friends was tens of thousands of £). And I want him to know I don’t care about that and he shouldn’t feel insecure or work his arse off to buy a ridiculously expensive ring. I just want to marry him and it’s more about showing our love to our family before the rest of the grandparents die off (morbid, I know!)
He does have Tats and in fact he just had my name put on him (I’ll add we are 9 years in 2 children) so I like that idea too! I don’t feel like being married would have any affect on our relationship in terms of depth and meaning. I just want to celebrate US with our family and friends and have an amazing party, and indulge in the novelty a little bit!! In my eyes he is already my husband!

Awww that sounds brilliant! It’s great to be more personal and going with the flow!