Wedding drama

If your sibling was getting married, and didn’t invite your children (their niece/nephew), would you be offended/upset?

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It depends - how old are my children and is it a child free wedding overall?

Personally I wouldn’t be. I understand their preference for a child free wedding. We had kids at ours during the ceremony and meal but not at night. But like I say others may not want that at all.

I wouldn’t be mad at all if it’s a child free wedding, but they shouldn’t be mad if you aren’t able to attend because of it

I just wouldn’t go.

Nah, it’s not about me. It’s their day and if they want a child-free wedding I’d respect that.

As a side note… my 18 month old did a poop in the middle of our vows and then ran around the aisle wafting the stink at all our guests. I 100% understand why people want to avoid that on their special day 🤣

Ppl without children probably more likely to want a child free wedding. I had a young child & I had my two nephews page boy & usher, wouldn’t have had it any other way. Everyone is different I suppose

Some people prefer to have child free weddings. I don’t see anything wrong with that. It’s their wedding and their choice how to celebrate

My brother had a child free wedding except for my son and nephews as they were page boys and I wish my kid wasn’t invited 😂.

Sound awful but he was 20 months and bored shitless. I was also pregnant and my son just cried and winged the full day (not his fault but it made the day not really enjoyable for me)

So it’s a kid free wedding? I see that as opportunity for date night and let my hair down for the night and dance the night away w no kids to look after. My kid is 6 and he’s been to about 4 weddings and 3 weddings he stayed home w MiL or my sisters coz they were kid free. I’ve also been to 2 baby showers that were kid free. It was a mums gathering only (did that way so the partners can look after any lil ones)

Need more information to make a choice

I only said yes before I realized it could be a child free wedding. I will say though I probably wouldn’t go if my child wasn’t invited. Our friends who are getting married invited our daughter and she will be the only baby at the wedding. I really love and respect them for that because I was willing to stay in the hotel with our baby while my husband went on our behalf to respect their decision if it was child free

Their wedding, their choice. As in, I’m not paying for it soooo…🤷🏽‍♀️

It depends. For the most part I probably wouldn’t be upset unless it was made very clear my child was unwelcomed because they didn’t like my baby. If it’s cause they wanna keep the guest list small or it’s child free I’d be fine with it.

As long as they’re understanding that it means you may not be able to attend, no I wouldn’t be offended at all if it’s a kid free wedding

Nned way more information if it JUST your kids that arnt invited or is it ALL kids I don't personally get not wanting kids I had kids at mine but at the end of the day it is their day and they make your rules

Agree with Lara, if she's okay for you not to attend then sure thing.
I know a girl who planned a child free wedding abroad and kicked off because a close friend ,who she wanted as a bridesmaid, couldn't make it because she couldn't get anyone to look after her two kids.

Depends if it’s a kid free wedding or not

Their wedding, their choice IMO

My little sister (only sibling) has said for years that no kids are allowed at her wedding. I don’t blame her and it’s her day, her rules, but it does hurt my feelings a bit that her nephews (my kids) won’t get to experience and remember her special day. But I respect her wishes.

Things has change now adays,because when i got married i just send out invite to whom i wanted to and if they choose to bring their children along that was ok, if they was single and wish to bring some one with them i had no problem with that.personal i see wedding has a family thing so having children their is a blessing.but saying that people do what is right for them

That is their special day that they’ll (hopefully) do once in their life. It’s not about me.

My sister made it clear years ago her future wedding (she’s not even engaged yet) will be child free. Why would I be mad? It’s her wedding 😂

As someone who had a childfree wedding, I wouldn’t be upset but equally, he would need to understand that due to the age of my youngest, we won’t be in attendance either.

in our community

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢