Is it normal to feel even lonelier as a married mom?

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way! I’ve definitely felt lonely as a first time mom. Is there a way your husband or baby sitter can take the kids for a few hours every other week so you can have some alone time to invite someone to lunch, a spa day, a walk, a workout class or another activity you might enjoy? I’ve found with being friends that I often have to be the initiator and the inviter. If you’re invited to something it makes you feel good. So make someone else feel good by inviting them to do the activity with you :)

Maybe your area has a play cafe or maybe there’s a mom and child class you can join at the library or a rec center to meet other moms and their children. :)

Also, I am concerned about your safety. No one should ever get violent when they are angry. Do you have someone you can talk to about this? Would your husband consider going to a therapist?

Normal yes. Does that mean you should need to accept it and that you deserve it? No! I certainly have friends with partners that chat a lot and where they don’t feel lonely (they have kids).

Throwing stuff and losing it when you just want to speak about feelings isn’t okay.

I genuinely think that feeling unhappy in your partnership, can make things much worse and much harder. Example: my best friend in an unhappy relationship stopped enjoying food and refused to eat spicy food. After she divorced, her appetite blossomed and she now tries lots of new stuff including spicy food. It sounds like a small example. But just shows that when one area in your relationship improves, other things improve naturally without needing much effort.

Hugs to you! Loneliness sucks

Personally I do believe that as we get older we become more isolated. I am 37, I am married I have a 14 year old and I am pregnant. My life is great I have all my needs met, my husband is a good guy, my kid doesnt give me trouble. I feel like i should be the happiest person ever, but im not. A lot of times I look back to when I was younger and I miss those days so much. Life was more carefree, I didnt worry about anything, I did whatever I wanted, went out all the time, and now I don't have that.

I moved recently so I dont have family or friends in the area, not a fan of this weather so I dont like going out, im always stuck at home, and it feels lonely and boring...

If you ever want to chat send me a message. It is not fair not to live a happy life. I can understand to you the way your partner acts is "normal" but is not. Please be careful.

It shouldn't be normal, but unfortunately im sure it is. I also feel so lonley and feel like im a single parent with a roommate instead of a husband. If you want to talk im here.

Doesn't it suck that relationships turn into that? After my first relationship I said I was going to get in another relationship then years passed and I met a guy and I ended up marrying him. We are happy things are good, but it does feel like I have a roommate. We work from home but we dont see each other throughout the day. Then we have dinner and we go our separate ways, he plays videos game and I do whatever else I feel like doing... relationships are so weird!!!

I totally disagree w your Mum. Mums are people too. I can take my mum hat off 2-3* a week and go see friends and go to my hobbies and the occasional event that comes up every now and again on my IG feed that I wanna go to. So according to your mum now that you’re a mum yourself that “carefree life is for the young ones and you need to put it aside?” I refuse to live like that. If you found something for yourself you wanted to go to and say to hubby “I found this for me I wanna start going” what would he say? Would he get angry? Because he’s half the problem there. I’m able to have my freedom and independence as a Mum because I have my partners’ unconditional support. Even if you did find a mum to connect with and you told him you’re going to meet her for drinks that Sat would he get angry? Sometimes being w the wrong partner can take away your soul instead of allowing you to thrive and glow as own person within the marriage. My dad took away my Mums’ wings so I’ve seen it firsthand.

Thanks! I guess I should try to pick back up some of my previous hobbies from my life pre-wife and pre-mom. Right now, I just feel so disinterested but I’ll give it an effort.