Post partem rage ??

Hey girl, take a breather, go on a walk if you can. Do you have a carrier? That really helps me because mine cries less in the carrier and I can use my hands.

This is all temporary this phase will pass and you will get rest again. I know it's so so hard.

Anyway I'm here if you want to talk shoot me a message. My baby crying used to go through me and make me feel like I was on fire.

Yeah, you can't block it out it's hard wired into your brain to respond. You are doing the right things, reaching out for support and getting outside when you need to.

Have you tried taking the baby outside with you? Maybe the breath of fresh air would help that works for us sometimes, I just bundle him up. Or depending on your baby's age maybe a wrap carrier to keep them close amd calm.

Have you ever done the PSI support groups? I think they have a postpartum rage specific group. I found them really helpful I used the birth trauma and the mood support groups.

Is he able to take any parental leave?

Get a therapist ASAP...i have one and it has helped me as I still deal with postpartum rage while preparing for 2 under 2 this spring.

I cant imagine how hard is this, but God is the only one who rewards on this, and this is why "Heaven is under mothers feet" as the prophet may peace be upon him said, may allah heal his pain and make him a calm little boy so you could get on with your life without this

Is he on any meds for colic?
How does he do with bath time? When my baby is inconsolable, I take him in the shower with me and he calms down almost immediately. We also turned to TikTok for some calming methods 😅

Go easy on yourself (and your husband). You’re doing the best with what you have; especially having never dealt with something like this before! The important thing is you’re not alone! Use your village.
Is your MIL able to come to you to help you some time? Can you guys afford a baby sitter? Or friends who could come provide moral support?

I understand and it must be so hard.
I didn’t encountered something this severe as you are saying. But when when my baby got very cranky and screaming, I used to take her out for a walk - carrier, stroller or even my arms just for little bit. And also water worked wonders. Give them a quick bath or a little soak for few mins. Most babies love water and kicking their feet in water. Also try playing white noise and relaxing music. If you drive, maybe drive around the block a few times to see if it calms him down. And also see which position is he most comfortable to be held in. My daughter loved the burping position if I was carrying her or lying on her tummy when she wanted to sleep or rest.

Also, during her witching hour when she used to cry, I would take her to quiet and dark room- change her diaper, feed and burp her and put on white noise. And put some music for myself to keep my sanity and calm.

I hope this phase passes for you soon. Hang in there mama ❤️

Earplugs. You need to turn down the volume on this so you can think. You can wear just one if you need to hear other things going on. A carrier will also help if he's having gas pain, but it gets hard on your back so you can only realistically do it for so long each day.

It's totally understandable that with such little support and a baby that's uncomfortable at all hours that you are extremely overstimulated and severely exhausted. That could drive the worst mom right up the fuckin wall. Don't beat yourself up! To start I'd tell you to get yourself some very very good noise canceling headphones. Just watch them on a baby cam if you're not right next to them to be safe. I
could tell you that I think your partner is acting stupid and is probably just gotta drop the baby off with his mom so can go fuck off like he does every other day but maybe he's really just clueless and naive. Maybe he needs you to be very straight up about how you're drowning and what exactly he needs.
If you don't have a friend or family member that can come help out so you can rest or take a nice long shower in peace out whatever else it is you need to feel like you again you, there's good low cost nannies out there that you can just have come for a few hours here and there.

My baby was the same honestly it was the worst time of my life. But looking back now I wish I had to embraced it more and lived in the moment. What I found helped is putting headphones on and listening to music while bobbing around with the baby. The music drowns out some of the screaming and the bobbing helped soothe her. Warm baths. 'tiger in the tree' hold. It's so hard when you're dealing with it by yourself all day. It's ok to put baby somewhere safe and step away for a few minutes.... You have to look after you too. X

The biological historical torture we experience from fussy babies really sucks. We don't live in caves anymore, but it still triggers our fight or flight mode.

My son didn't scream very often but even just him crying was nails on a chalkboard. Even now still I hate it. My therapist suggested music at first, one headphone in, to muffle the unbearable pain but still be able to hear him just enough. I also bought Loop earplugs, they dont get rid of the noise either, but muffle it enough to make it less mentally disturbing.

Awww i really feel for you. My baby had severe colic from 2-12 weeks and I have never felt so fragile and numb in my life. She is now 19 weeks and the most happy little girl, she is rolling and laughing and coos herself to sleep at night time.
Nothing worked for us, not infacol, gripe water, omeprazole, osteopath, dairy free diet...you name it we tried it...the best thing I did was accept my fate and ride the storm in whichever way I could. Accept the help...this is not forever. I definitely have ptsd from my baby screaming that much but I can tell she has no recollection of it and we have the best bond. Hang in there...one day at a time!

I agree with the previous comment. When my baby would get restless and non stop I’d take him to a window, change rooms or if that didn’t help, take him outside for some fresh air and new things to look at and it almost always works to get him to at least stop crying, take a breath, and recalibrate.


Just want to add it’s okay to put baby down somewhere safe in bassinet or lounger and go hide in the bathroom or bedroom for a few minutes. I have found when I get so overstimulated from the noise I’ll put my ear buds in and play some music or sometimes just have them in and play nothing at all but blocks out the noise and I can then recalibrate myself to see if I can pick up baby and try to get him to calm down as well.


They feel our emotions and when we are upset. They don’t understand but they feel it. When I get all pissy it’s not at him but he def will cry or become aware and immediately have noticed this and course correcting by taking a step away if needed, asking someone to

Hold him for me for a couple of mins etc

Re: don’t know what help…Can his mother come to you? I felt the anger w1-5 with the colic, but it was even worse when people wanted to take the baby to “fix” him themselves. Partly guilt, I know. But I wanted them to assist, not replace me. If having someone else stay with you with any noted boundaries you need, that might be an alternative to him taking the baby to gma’s