Feeling like a failure and depressed

I don’t know where to start but I’m going to start off by saying that I am being accused of being pregnant again because of my siblings and their 21 year old friend thinks it’s okay to say that around my mom and she believes everything that they say every time even though they are being disrespectful and rude… I get that I got pregnant while in high school but I don’t want to repeat that again when people think I made a mistake by keeping my daughter and I am wanting to give up because of this and that my own mother doesn’t understand that I’m not being mean by not telling her my problems anymore so I’m wanting to give up on my life 😭😭

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Although this might sound cheesy, I like to believe that everything that happens in our lives has a purpose. Your daughter is a blessing no matter how you look at it. You literally created life! Not everyone can say that, not even every woman. Yes, you feel the timing was off but it wasn't. Sometimes things happen in our lives because we need them to.

You love your daughter, you decided to keep her, and despite all that, you are here reaching out to others like you for guidance. I'll tell you, even if you weren't facing the backlash from people in your life, the feelings of being a failure and feeling depressed is very common among pregnant woman before and after giving birth. Just know you're not alone. Things can get difficult at times but remember to be present for yourself and your daughter because that's all that should matter right now. As for the support in your life, there is no rule it has to be family or your existing friends. You're on this app. You are already surrounded by an entire community that understands what you feel. You're not alone. You can message me whenever and I'm sure hundreds of other mom's are here for you on this app as well 💕

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