Do you let your kids climb on your furniture?

Went on a playdate to a friend's house, and our kids (3&4YO) climbed up over the arm of the couch, and mom friend says "furniture is not for climbing on". I of course enforced the rule, as I respect people's space, but I was shocked. I let my 4YO climb on our furniture. It's great excersise in the winter.

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At home we let him climb on almost all the stuff (: because our home is his home, we create our space for him to thrive.

At relatives and friends houses we follow whatever that houses rules are.

In general we keep the mindset of once we step out our front door, we are guests in the world, even in nature.

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I wouldn’t let my son climb on other people’s furniture

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No, in fact I regularly tell him our sofas are for sitting on.
But, he has access to an indoor climbing frame, small soft play set up, and stepping stones and beams, should he want to be physical inside the house. He doesn’t need to be climbing and jumping all over our sofas.

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My son climbs at home but I do not allow him in someone else's home. It's not the same having 2 kids climbing than having 2 kids + their friends climbing. Nothing shocking at her setting a boundary here.

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I’m one of the ones who will say no I have never let my kids climb on furniture, I also know that my situation is not like other so I will say we all parent differently and that’s ok I guess teaching kids that when at home there is different rules then when not at home is key

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I dont let him jump on furniture but definitely climb

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Nope. They have other things they can climb on lol.

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We don't climb on the furniture because my now 6 year old has broken her elbow twice from climbing on the furniture. The first time was a week before her 4th birthday and she had to have surgery to put pins in her elbow after flipping off the couch. We've been to other friend houses who allow their kids to and that's cool for them but my kids don't.

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I don't let him climb on any furniture, even if his friends do it in their homes. I'm always reminding him of all the monkeys that bonked their heads. Haha

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My 1 year old climbs on the couch and the wooden coffee table but at other people’s houses I enforce their rules

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Defo not. Climbing on furniture is disrespectful.

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No for safety reasons. They have plenty of toys they’re allowed to climb on and won’t get hurt doing so.

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No, I always tell my 4 year old "we do not climb on sofas" it could lead to injury, and I would not want her doing it in someone else's house. If we go to a house and other children are doing it, I say we don't climb in sofas!

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I don't like it have to replace everything all the time to much stuff in our land fills

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I have never been one to own furniture that I'm not comfortable with kids or pets rough housing on. Life's to short to be boring

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Yes mine do as I have bigger worries tbh however not at someone elses house, especially if that's their rules and they've made it clear. I could never disrespect someone elses home x

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Climbing on the couch im fine with anything else no. I don’t have anywhere else he can climb since we just moved and my hubby was laid off for 6 months last year.

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