Potty trained?

My son (3yrs) will use the toilet independently for a wee and a poo (I have to wipe him for a poo) but he will go to the toilet, pull his pants down, do what he needs to do, pull them up, flush the chain and wash his hands. He will go by himself without prompting and will stop eating/playing to go. He will also use public toilets by asking us to go the toilet.

He still has daily accidents, maybe once or twice and is still wet at night. He drinks a lot! Is this classed as potty trained?

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He's been like this for a while so I don't know how to make the next step? Been to gp, no issues/infections. Advice and suggestions would be much appreciated xx

My sons the same! Hes 3 and Potty trained goes poop and pee on his own, i still wash him after a poop but at night he wears a diaper. I tried realy hard to stop him peeing at night but that meant waking up every 2 hours to wake him for a wee so i eventually gave up as it was killing my sleep.

When i potty trained my son, I got rid of diapers completely (during the day at first, then at night) which made it really uncomfortable for him to go in his pants.

Overnight dryness is hormonal so not something you can really ‘train’ - daytime sounds likes there though? Is it during particular activities or times he has accidents? X

Overnight happens naturally, on average between 3-7yrs, unless you just enjoy having & giving interrupted sleep & withholding fluids just so you don’t have to buy diapers or wash underpads, then you can try to figure out what times they pee & force them to go. My boys both ditched day diapers @18m, I considered them done aka “potty trained” then & there, bc they knew what to do & where to do it, even though I still washed their hands, wiped them & took off/put on their clothes for them, I consider those separate milestones, neither one of mine talked yet, but they made it clear what they needed to do & what support they needed. Mine were a bit different w/ misses, none until day 5, less excited about it & losing track of time during play & even peeing weird places for fun, they stopped missing so much a few days later & my oldest had his last miss on his 2nd bday, but they were very random most of those 6m. My 2nd prob had 5 misses in 6m after that day 5-9, but he sometimes has…..

My little one has been using the potty or toilet for about 6 months now and she still has the occasional accident, still sleeps in pullups and I say she's trained during the day. Has no nappy for nap or going out or anything and knows to go, how to go etc and accidents can still happen for a long time, so she's done in my eyes. Just nights left, but I'm not in any rush to do that just yet 😅

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