feel like im neglecting my man

Do you pump at all so someone else can give her a bottle of breastmilk? I chose to combo feed boob and bottle but all breastmilk so someone else even if it’s just my husband could feed my kids. Just gave me peace of mind if I ever had to go somewhere without her and even to help with overnights. I get just wanting to EBF. Whatever works for you is perfect! Maybe try incorporating your fiance into your bonding time with baby. Like have your own personal time with her and then when he gets home, have family time as well. That’ll help you two bond more and also start functioning more as a unit. Works wonders for my husband and two kids and I. Just some time where I’m caring for my newborn daughter and my husband comes in wrestling our toddler son and then we have our boy hold her and bond is the most precious time.

Its normal, it takes 2yrs for hormones to go back to normal

I am 10 months pp and this is normal! I breastfeed as well and my husband understands as well. We decided to try to make time for each other. Cause I am a sahm and I put all my time and energy into our baby. But on weekends, hubby and I go out with our baby, but we make that time more purposeful with our time together! It gets easier every month.

I noticed you said you get no alone time with out the baby and I feel that I can’t wait till the baby gets some sleep or takes a nap sometimes she wakes up during our private time and I feel bad to have to stop if he’s not finished with in the minute she wakes up. But I know he appreciates the initiative that I tried. I know you feel touched out but Mabey if you can just push yourself a little bit the appreciation will broaden your energy.

i think effort is what matters most, i’m 3 months pp with a 2 year old & believe me i understand while i do pump and feed which is very taxing. you’re doing great as a mother but the guilt is coming from the lack of effort you are putting into your partner. girl no judgement i go weeks without anything sometimes i push him away from even hugging me because im so exhausted but when i get that guilt i turn that emotion into effort i wake up a little earlier and maybe i don’t wanna have intercourse but i do other things. it’s 10 min or less lol i just put in a little effort to help me not feel guilty

see i agree my job is the hardest thing but in order to be a good friend you have to put in effort and wiling sit through hard times with your friend. now i assume our men are our friends and it’s just 5-10min max. lmao BELIEVE me it takes A LOT of effort to get there bet once it’s over everyone satisfied. my guilt is gone and i can go back to pushing him away for another week. don’t get me wrong im attracted and love my man i just don’t have the energy for all that i want it over with asap i got shit to do (for myself) i tend to sacrifice my “me” time while they are asleep to do whatever so yeah the last thing i wanna do is do more for someone else but end the end it’s for me i feel less guilty

Wow ur husband is a green flag 💕 happy for u