Partners hobbies/free time

Yes. I think a lot of men will do what they can get away with. You need to explain that parenting is everyday and if you werent here he would have to work and do all of it.
Besides that… i say teamwork makes the dreamwork. And, if someone on the team is expressing a need or desire … the other party needs to help come up with a plan that is mutually beneficial. Id be scheduling me time in addition to my nail time….especially since he gets him time… golf time. I say one day is golf day, the next free day is your day… and the next maybe family day… until he works with you and yall are flexible and feel u both are contributing and getting what you need. You especially need to get him on board before your maternity ends.
My husband works 4 days 12 hrs and goes to the gym 5 days for 2 hrs. Today he took baby so i could sleep several hours. Oh

Solidarity, you're definitely not alone!

I once asked my partner when I was going to have "me" time and he replied I get it every day whilst the baby contact naps and feeds off me. I almost bit his head off!

I read that new dads assume they are free (for social events and the like) unless they are told otherwise whereas new mums assume they are busy (watching the baby/babies) unless they are explicitly told/know childcare has been sorted. It makes me kinda sad to think about tbh!

I always say, men often want to have a kid, not to be a father. They are completely different things…

It’s a very common issue. They feel they deserve a break because they go to work and make money. But what they can’t seem to get is they get to clock out and come home and relax. We don’t get a time clock to clock out. I don’t get a lunch break. Or to clock out my brain even if I’m not home for an hour grocery shopping. It’s hard to understand for them for some reason.