Grunting baby

Ladies, any help and advice please. Long one so bear with me.

My 2.5 week old has gone from an extremely chilled baby who would happily be put down during the day and sleep in his next to me, to a baby I now can’t put down due to grunting in pain. It’s meant my partner is in the spare room as I end up having to co-sleep to get any sleep at all (which still isn’t a lot). When I’ve also got a 2.5 year old and a dog, with my partner back at work soon it’s going to make life very difficult not being able to put him down at all. My first was a Velcro baby with reflux and colic so I know from experience with him it’s not colic as it’s all day, doesn’t get worse on an evening or after a feed, and it’s not reflux as he’s never sick.

He’s now completely bottle fed on cow and gate formula. He’s not crying. He’s straining and kicking his legs out. Genuinely sounds like he’s trying to give birth himself, or like a sheep making a weird noise. I’ve been told it’s ‘normal’ for his age due to immature gut system but this doesn’t seem normal and it’s horrible seeing him in what appears to be pain.

What we’ve done or have tried
- he’s been proscribed Gaviscon for silent reflux
- next to me is tilted so head is higher
- pace feeding.
- we use Mam bottles
- burp every ounce
- keep him up right and continue to burp over shoulder for 20 mins after a feed
- he has warm baths with a flannel over his tummy
- tummy massages, bicycle legs, other exercises
- we’ve tried infacol, didn’t work at all
- we’ve tried Colief, again didn’t work
- we’ve got mommy’s bliss gripe water, mixed reviews. Works straight after using it but then not again for a while.
- ordered some probiotic drops to come tomorrow.

I am reluctant to change his milk so early on unless we’re certain it would work as we swapped formulas around lots for my first and caused more issues. I don’t think it’s CMPA as he’s putting weight on well, no issues with his nappies, skin and not rejecting feeds.

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We had similar issues with our first born. The only other things we did, which you havent listed is we mixed his formula with a wisk instead of shaking it, to reduce air bubbles. We also raised his next to me cot at the top end so he wasn't lay completely flat. I also have heard of people feeding so they are leaning to their left side instead of their right can help. I know cow and gate do anti reflux milk and comfort milk but i havent tried them myself. It might be worth a try, if you havent already. You can have reflux without actually being sick and it can cause a lot of pain, so best to treat as though they have reflux, just in case. X

Sounds exactly like my first. Silent reflux. Gaviscon didn’t work, only omeprazole, then we had a normal happy baby again.
I’m so sorry, it’s completely shit.

Could he be constipated? My little boy started on gaviscon for reflux and within a week of using it became very unsettled and screaming hadn't pooed for a while and when he finally did it was really hard and blood in it due to him straining so much, got given some lactulose for him. He's now on omeprazole instead and anti reflux milk and seems more settled x

My first born had colic 24/7 for 4 months. So it can be a severe case of colic? Only thing that helps is contact which you're doing and a dummy.
My second born is showing signs of colic and has become a Velcro baby too. I might consider a wrap or sling to do things for a toddler too.

I’ve had a really positive experience at the drs with my little one. She listened to me, didn’t make me feel like I was making anything up and we came up with a plan. She explained omeprazole is unlicensed until they are 1 month which basically means they shouldn’t proscribe it until after then. They can do but need to try other things first and needs to be in extreme cases. She asked if I was happy to change milk over and we have done to cmpa milk and then booked another appointment next week to see if any positive changes. Not 24 hours in yet and not had any changes really. He’s had 4 bottles of the other milk and still the same. So we will just see. X

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