overflow of tears .

I am 4 months , and just wanted to get this off my chest , i don’t have anyone to talk to so i’ll just go here . Since i’ve found out i was pregnant my child’s father has yet to seem excited. we continue to argue . he claims he’s happy and wants to love me and our child but then leaves me to feel so alone . it’s like an never ending battle with him . he’s recently blocked me because i decided to express how he makes me feel less of myself . and instead of taking time to cater maybe and show that he actually is here for me he just blocked me. and now i’m stuck with endless tears , my heard just feels numb . i’m stuck in bed . i cant sleep . and all i do is continuously cry . this hurts so bad and idk how i will manage. i know they say the baby can feel all the stress so i try not to but how can i not? we’ve been together for over 6 years and at first it was great but after my first miscarriage things went so down him . i just wanna be loved , heard , understood. but i feel i’ll never get that . or maybe i just don’t deserve it .

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I'm so sorry to hear that your going through this 💔 I hope you manage to work things out with him and you can message me if you need someone to talk to

I hate that mess men go to blocking when they don’t want to take responsibility for what they don’t

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Have you considered researching attachment styles? I think it could really help you. Being anxiously attached can trigger the avoidant attachment style in a partner and vice versa. I'm sorry you're in such a hard place right now. Whatever happens, it will get better

Honestly, its exactly like the quote "if they wanted to, they would". Unfortunately you can't force someone to care. If he wanted to step up and get ready to be a dad and make himself BE a good dad, he would. If he wanted to be supportive and loving, he would. I stayed in a relationship for almost 7 years with my 2 oldest kiddos dad when I shouldn't have. We had lost a baby in 2018 so i understand where youre coming from with saying things went downhill. It turned into an extremely bad DV situation eventually over time. He started to show red flags early but I convinced myself that he would adapt over time to father hood and being a good partner. It never happened.. I know it sounds impossible and hard, but you need to get out of that relationship and attachment while you still can. All your baby needs is their momma. No matter how hard it may seem, things will get better. You deserve the world and for someone to see you and your baby as their world. ❤️

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