20 months old who won’t sleep

Hello!

I am struggling with my 20 months old. She’s amazing but when it’s time to go to sleep she just won’t sleep. Napping is almost impossible and bedtime is eternal. It takes me at least an hour to put her to sleep. If I am not literally next to her, she will cry and won’t stop until I come back (she can cry for 30 mins no problem and never get tired). Also she won’t allow my husband to put her to sleep.

I know this is my fault because I didn’t sleep training her correctly when I was supposed to but I keep trying everything and nothing works. Does anyone have any advice on how to teach her to fall asleep?

Thank you for your time!

3

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

This is NOT YOUR FAULT. I repeat, this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Babies don't need training to learn to sleep, they learn this naturally over time and we can't rush them. Some babies just take longer to learn how to do it unfortunately, and its mainly down to their own individual temperament. We just have to be patient and support them as they learn. That includes things like comforting them, not leaving them to cry, lying next to them. Eventually their brains develop to learn how to sleep alone but it takes time and each child is different.

What are her sleep and wake times? As it may be that you are aiming for too much sleep and they simply aren't tired enough.

Couldn't agree more with the above comment! There is so much pressure to sleep train, as if we've somehow failed if our little ones don't fall asleep independently and sleep all night. Comforting our children to sleep and them needing their mum are not bad habits. They're only little still ❤️ Please don't think you've done anything wrong!

in our community

Not sure where to share

I'm for sure proud, but I don't know where or how to post this, because I never want someone to feel anything less than wonderful in regards to their child(ren).

So.. my son learned his numbers 0-12 over a couple months when he was 1 and a half, because he's ALWAYS wanting to learn about everything. He knows all of his colors, numbers up to 25, can recognize and name emotions in books and people, and knows/recognizes 15 of the letters in the alphabet. He just turned 2 and a half a few days ago.

A couple weeks ago, we're drawing, having fun, and he goes, "Eight!" And happily points to the board where he was drawing (you can see some scribbles here, too lol). I look, and see he drew the number 8. Intentionally.

Now, his dad is in MENSA, but I really am shocked, because he "shouldn't be able to do this yet". 😂

Anyone else with a child like this? I want to ensure I continue to challenge him, and have joked about making weekly lesson plans for him. I have stayed at home with him since birth.

Thanks!!

10

11

Baby cuddles

Anyone else’s baby completely bury their heads wherever they can?

Is she okay like this. Worry she’ll start struggling to breathe. But if I move her she just makes her way back there.

3

7

Jabs question??

LO had their jabs at 9.30am this morning. She has literally not been awake AT all since and its now 2pm. Only for a quick bottle 2hrs ago but her eyes didnt even open
I'm worried she will NEVER sleep at all tonight should she sleep all day
Ive tried to put her down and she does a really horrid cry as soon as she leaves my arms, which is not like her
Is this normal? Sleep all day? Did your babies do this and still sleep at night or not? Just wondering if to prepare to be awake all niggt!

1

5

Protector around crib??

My 6 months old rolls a lot in her crib. Last night she bumped her head on ut when rolling. Any recommendations or links to get some sort of padded protector around the crib??

8

20 months old who won’t sleep

Hello!

I am struggling with my 20 months old. She’s amazing but when it’s time to go to sleep she just won’t sleep. Napping is almost impossible and bedtime is eternal. It takes me at least an hour to put her to sleep. If I am not literally next to her, she will cry and won’t stop until I come back (she can cry for 30 mins no problem and never get tired). Also she won’t allow my husband to put her to sleep.

I know this is my fault because I didn’t sleep training her correctly when I was supposed to but I keep trying everything and nothing works. Does anyone have any advice on how to teach her to fall asleep?

Thank you for your time!

3