Help a girl out because wtf????

Okay so I’ll be honest me and the father of my child were never in a relationship, we had a mutual friend and one day something that was not meant to happened so yea I got pregnant and he was talking about how he’ll definitely take care of his kid etc. The problem started when he asked me to be his girlfriend since we already having a child together and I had told him no, not only because I was already talking to someone but he isn’t my type lol anyway after telling him no he started acting up and decided to deny my pregnancy and demanded a DNA test which I never fought him btw. Fast forward I gave birth and all a sudden he wasn’t denying the pregnancy blah blah blah and again he asked me to be his girlfriend, btw after giving birth me and the guy who I was talking to were official and I told him that which got him mad again. Now 2 days ago the father of my child somehow got my boyfriend’s number and started lying, insulting and threatening him to the point where my boyfriend block me, now I haven’t spoken to my man in 2 days and I don’t know what to do. I tried explaining my side but he just didn’t want to hear it, I definitely blocked the father of my child so help… I genuinely don’t know what to do or say like I’m going through this this roller coaster of feelings🥲

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Well….maybe just give him some time to think things through. Having someone threaten him, insult him etc can probably be upsetting. No one really wants to deal with an ex, especially if they think this person is going to around for a long time. I can understand blocking your child’s father, but what will you tell them when they get older (if the plan is to keep him permanently blocked)? It’s a tough situation you’re in.

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Can you get a restraining order on him that’s harassment and I’m sorry that you have to go through that

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Girl this is a really tough situation, and I’m sorry you’re going through it. When a child’s father starts bringing drama directly to your partner, most men are going to step back; not because they don’t care, but because why , it’s too much too soon. Would you want all that from an ex? You would want peace in relationship as much as you can get. At this point the best thing you can do is focus on stability for you and your baby and setting firm boundaries with your child’s father(hoping he follows them).

If you want to clear the air and really feel it’s worth it, you can keep messaging to ask if he’d be open to meeting to talk things through, so there’s honesty and clarity instead of confusion. Hopefully he agrees. After that, give him space and let his actions show you where he stands. But you also need to be prepared to accept that your boyfriend may have chosen to remove himself from the situation. No matter what happens, protect your peace and your child first.

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