2 year age gap

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again with my second and really happy about it but also very nervous about the age gap and if we will manage a newborn with a toddler (who is a typical boy so is wild). I’m already anxious about going back to sleep deprivation etc as really struggled with my first for the first few months. My first is in nursery/childcare 4 days a week which is helpful but my husband works away sometimes just for 2/3 days at a time and I worry about how I’ll manage.
I know people do but I just need some reassurance!

It’s exactly 2 years after my first so my boy will turn 2 and my due date is a week after this!

Please fill my comments with positive 2 year age gap stories please!

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So my daughter is 2y4m older than my son. I spoke about being pregnant and the baby as soon as I knew for the most part everything was okay. I got books about siblings, let her help with sorting out things for the baby and get involved. Even took hwr to some of the doctors appt (not scans) so she could hear the heartbeat.

I let her listen and touch the baby, got her a caddy so she could help get me things. Then she went and picked out a present for the baby.

I explained that I would be in the hospital to have the baby and she would be with nanny, nursery and daddy. She went 1.5 days at the time.

When the baby was born, I wasnt holding him when she came and visited. I made a fuss over her and how much I missed her then let her take the lead. Baby brother got her a present and they exchanged and then when she wanted to I let her hold him.

When we got home I never said no, let her kiss, hug, hold baby as much as she wanted. Found a way for her to help me even if she wasnt helping. Dad took her for a lot of

1 on 1 time at the start as I was recovering from a csection.

Now im 11 months in and things are a lot easier. The first 12 weeks were hard learning how to balance them both. I made sure toddler was put first sometimes even if that meant baby crying. Wanted to show her it wasnt all about the baby. Now I take her out for 1 on 1 time at the weekend while dad looks after baby and I feel like we have a good balance.

Sometimes we are exhausted. Sometimes we have too much tv. But overall I love it and seeing my daughter grow into a caring big sister is amazing. The house is full of laughter, and sometimes tantrums but I wouldn't change it for the world.

Mum guilt is so real sometimes but I accept my feelings, allow them and find a way to move through the chaos.

You've got this! X

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