Tantrums and discipline

My 18 month old has started to throw himself on the floor when he gets mad. I pick him up and tell him we don’t throw ourselves we’re gonna get hurt. He still does it. Then when he knows he’s not supposed to do something he’ll look at us and still do it. We tell him no and I know that’s an iffy word but sometimes I don’t know any phrases or what else to tell him I guess. How do I get him to listen to me even if I have to start off slow?

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In my opinion you should not feel bad telling your kid no. As a teacher I see no as part of setting boundaries. They will hear no threat while life from people. You can say it nicely but firmly and you can also explain why it is a no. As an elementary teacher when I have kids come to my class that have parents that have never said no they often have a very hard time adjusting to school.

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As someone getting their Masters in SW and has talked to a lot A LOT of child therapists - two words: Natural. consequences.

He throws himself on the floor? Ok. Stop picking him up. You keep coming to the rescue, so he keeps doing it.

Let him learn to self-regulate. He won't build those skills unless he learns now.

Say ONCE "I hear that you're upset about ____. You are really upset/sad/frustrated! I will (give you a hug/read a book/get a snack) when I'm done (doing task)."

(I don't know why he's throwing himself on the floor, so the above is an example. You may need to plug and play.)

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