I lost my lovely 14 year old furbaby to cancer whilst pregnant at 26 weeks. It's now been a month and I've been trying to process the grief whilst also being super excited for the baby to arrive, but I'm now being filled with a bit of dread and fear at the baby's arrival. I'm really struggling with the passage of time and knowing that when I give birth, my dog, Lily, (who has been with me since I was 15!) will never meet them and will also have been gone for about 3 months.
Has anyone else dealt with this and have you got tips on how to process grief without it consuming you. The hormones are really doing a number on me, I'm barely sleeping, and it's a success if I make it through the day by only crying the once.
We do still have our other dog who has been an absolute life saver but she's very different!
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I’m sorry for your loss, it’s never easy loosing a beloved pet so I want to offer my condolences 💐 especially at a time when you’re pregnant too. Just try to remember that your doggy was very much loved and you gave her the best life possible and she left this world knowing that! Give yourself time don’t rush the grief and the process and cry if you need to!! When your baby is bigger you could speak about your dog and show pictures. Hugs to you xxx

aww i’m sorry 😔 rip lily 🕊️my childhood cat, nala, died while i was pregnant. she was 17 i think? we got her when i was like 2. honestly grieving wasn’t too difficult for me. we knew it was coming since she was so old and i got a bit of her ashes in a necklace that i wear pretty much always. i did accidentally take a picture of her before i realized she had passed 😬🥲i took the picture laughing to show my mom how “she looks dead” and then realized it was because she actually was 😭😭😭and i can’t get myself to delete it because it feels disrespectful to delete the last picture of her so yeah😬😭i do have that. i guess maybe the awkwardness of how she died helps it not hurt so much? or maybe i’ll have a breakdown at a cat food commercial in 10 years, who knows.

I lost my cat when I was 32 weeks pregnant with my second, she was only 10 and was hit by a car right outside our house 😪 it was awful. I cried for weeks. We buried her in our garden and planted a rose on top of her. It helps a bit but I still miss her!

Sorry for your loss..it's one of the worst things to have to go through 😔 my dog Bella isn't doing great she's stopped eating..we had blood test today..I think it's only a matter of time..I don't know how I'm going to cope.. I'm feeling the same my thoughts today filled a little bit with dread..xx