Over stepping boundaries

I have always had issues with my MIL.
Some of the issues:
She tracked all my pregnancies, and took the joy out of me reading the pregnancy app things.
She bought baby clothes none stop before I delivered, so I never felt like I could buy any myself. She also only ever got clothes in the style she liked.
She monitored what I ate, what medicines took, told me not to be intimate or I could hurt the baby.
If I mentioned wanting to buy something, she would buy whatever it was before I had the chance to. Again always what she would prefer.
She would try and take the babies out of my arms if they hurt themselves.
And anytime I brought up being a little less involved, she would say “I can never do anything right, I’m always in trouble” not speak to my for a week and then go right back to doing the stuff again.
I always felt like she was trying to take over the role as mom as she views my significant other more of a husband than a son.
Has anyone else dealt with something similar? Ate the boundaries ever gonna be listened to?

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Do you live with her because if you don’t I’d stop visiting her often.

I don’t but I used to. It’s just hard because my significant other doesn’t think it’s a big deal.

I have this issue with my MIL calling my baby HER baby, and not her grand-baby. She also likes to randomly get her things that are in the wrong season or size.

The intimacy hurting the baby thing sounds so wacko but she a little basket case but who is sharing
this information with her? Is your husband okay with this? Have you talk to him? He might be okay with it because it’s less he has to do ? It’s sounds like there might be a touch of narcissism with her whole “being in trouble” bit but it’s okay to buy a few things for your kid it’s one of the joys of parenting you might not pick out all the stuff but kids don’t need a lot so just tell her your kid doesn’t need clothes and tell her to buy something else and if she buys something and your kids just seems to have never used it’s not a big deal and resell it lol 😂

This just kept getting worse as I read more and more!

Ong this happened to me and I wish I could go back in time and stored all those gifts and clothes and instead bought my own.

Cut her off, she’s so overbearing there’s no need for her doing all that. She’s robbing you of your motherhood. You done right asking her to be less involved she’s clearly played victim over it. Just put her stuff aside and buy what you want and like. If she don’t like that she may finally get the hint to back off

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