Left partner

I have left my partner i couldnt take doing everything for him he took me for granted we were together for 13+ years and he just didnt do a thing he lost his job but even when he was working I still done everything for him anyway hes refusing to leave we are joint tenancy on our council home I feel like signing the rights to him and find myself somewhere else to live with our 3 kids I cant stand living with him any longer hes constantly in my space asking for me back I sleep on our couch I have been for nearly a week now he is adamant we are getting back together our kids know I have been to housing they wont rehome me I'm just looking for any advice hes also waiting on me to help him find a job and to find out what hes entitled to which im also trying to find out for myself too and hes refusing to talk about co parenting as he is always in my space saying can you take me back now I will change I have made changes just take me back but im done I have asked him to back off and he hasnt - sorry about the rant I just dont know what to do any advice please hes draining me.

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Whatever you do, DON’T sign your housing rights over to him.

How old are your 3 kids?

What type of property do you live in - 3 bed house/flat?

When you said you’ve been to housing and they won’t re-home you, who did you speak to, what exactly did they say?

How old are you and your ex?

Ok thank you and he made a big deal saying hes now homeless he has nowhere to go neither do I but I can't continue to live here 11,8 and 6. 3 bed flat but we are down to move hopefully in 2 years but I cant live like this for that long i spoke to housing officers not my own but one for my area and she told me that I would be making myself intentionally homeless and they wont help me she reccomended me going private and then waiting on a home that way I'm 28 hes 31

Make an appointment with your housing officer in your area and tell them you’ve split up. They can’t say you’re intentionally making yourself homeless, it’s a change of circumstances, and they’re going to have to treat you and your ex as separate single council tenants.

Leave your ex to sort his own shit out. He sounds like an absolute man-baby!

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