Grandparent Preference

Does anyone prefer one grandparents influence and support over the others. For example I prefer to be around my family more because they've been so supportive and we share a lot of the same views and they respect our parenting style. Where my in-laws just haven't been as supportive or respected our parenting style as much they've just gotten frustrated with us and I constantly question if they are actually that naive or is it just blatant disrespect. My husband says his parents just don't know and we have to teach them but I'm already raising 2 toddlers with and we're expecting our 3rd in October and I don't have the time, patience or capacity to teach 2 grown adults in their 50s how to be respectful and cooperative. I think it's generally more common to be around the woman/wives family more especially when children come into the picture.
I'd rather just be closer to more supportive family that understands us and holds the same values. Is it wrong to feel this way?

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I don't think it's "common" to be closer to the maternal side of the family HOWEVER I do think it's common to be closer to the people who respect you, your parenting & tries to cooperate.

It's not wrong to feel that way at all. In general speaking, we all want to surround ourselves with supportive people & unfortunately not everyone we're related to is going to be as supportive as we hope. You don't have to cut them off but you can definitely limit their visits & only have your child around them when you're there with them.

I'd also talk to your husband & say this is 3 kids too late for him to be telling his parents to straighten up & ask for him to do it or expect a difference in y'all's relationship with them because it's not fair having to raise 3 kids & teach 2 able bodied/minded adults how to listen & do as their told regarding other people's children (not theirs).

100% more common to be closer the mother's side.
My inlaws are a nightmare..zero respect for any boundaries from day one and constantly stuck noses in trying to take over.
My family absolutely amazing supportive and loving and understanding of my wishes.

I have a good relationship with my mom. Non existent dad. My in laws are definitely great grandparents for my child. Even if I don't agree on everything with them they rock at it and they are also nice parents for us. Always helpful and respectful of our parenting. It's ok things to be this way. My mom is not the best but she is trying.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?