I’m so lonely
I feel embarrassed to make this post, but I have been feeling really down. I have been feeling so lonely since I had my son three years ago; it feels like my social life has become mainly about being a mum. I have my partner, but it’s not the same. I wish I could go out with friends for a coffee or even for a girls' dinner. I used to do that with my dad, but since he passed away in December, nothing feels the same. I have friends, but they live very far away, and their lives are in a different stage. So I feel like I'm no longer part of that since I became a mum. They go out, but they only say they couldn't invite me because I might not go since I'm a mum. I am at home all the time. I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to or go out with.
It's really hard for me… I feel stuck!
Any advice?
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This is the bravest post ♥️🫶🏼 my boy’s a bit younger, he’s 15 months and I’m based in Totton so not on your doorstep but not a million miles away. I’d be happy to grab a coffee or go to the park or something with the boys? It sounds like you’ve had a really rough time recently 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
Hey Yanella, it’s really brave of you to post this, you shouldn’t feel embarrassed at all. I’m so sorry to hear about your father passing.
Making friends as an adult can be hard, especially if you’re feeling lonely or your confidence has taken a knock.
Maybe try local baby groups to meet mums with children a similar age. If you’re wanting more adult friendships too, you could try a gym, a class, or even craft clubs. If you’re working, maybe try connecting with someone there as well.
You could also message people on here and suggest meeting for a coffee if you’re looking for real connection.
It might also help to ask your partner to have your little one one evening and reach out to your friends, sometimes being the one to initiate helps, and letting them know you’re struggling a bit too.
I know it can feel like the effort is on you to reach out, but once you make that connection it can really be worth it. I’m really sorry you’re going through this ❤️
So sorry for your loss. Please make sure you talk to your GP if you think you need extra support for your grief.
I agree with Laura that making friends as an adult is very hard! Do you go to many baby/infant groups? That might be a good way to start meeting new people. Or try to Peanut to say hello to people in your area.
It'll take time, but hopefully the effort will pay off.
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