Mother’s Day…..

So it’s almost 8pm on Mother’s Day and I haven’t a single message from anyone, none of my mum “friends” messaged, no family, literally not a single person. I’ve been trying to hold it all together but I genuinely feel so alone. There’s also other stuff that’s gone on and made me realise that people don’t care the same way I do about them…. Is anyone else feeling this today.

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I cant personally relate but i will say, alot of people feel like the only person they need to celebrate mothers day with is their own mums instead of all of the mothers they know in their lives. And its important to note that even if nobody has celebrated you becoming a mother that does not mean that you cannot. Treat yourself to your favourite snack, watch a movie or series. Buy yourself something nice that youve potentially been feeling guilty about spending the money on because you deserve it! I know it probably dont mean much because you dont know me but happy mothers day.❤️ you are worth being celebrated and appreciated, even if it is by a complete stranger.

Happy mother's day. So sorry you have felt lonely today 😔 I am sure your little one(s) are grateful for everything you do for them each day and they will show their appreciation as soon as they can. At the end of the day, it is their wishes that count.

Babe people won’t message you
They’re busy it’s part of life.

I didn’t message anyone I didn’t expect any messages

Happy Mother’s Day to all of us!

If people don’t care about you like you care about them, then you have to think about your friendships again

I have mom friends but we message when we can.

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Hi everyone! I honestly have 0 social queues when it comes to talking to anyone in general. I definitely have a hard time talking to other women and making new friends. I can 100% relate. I just don’t like the idea of texting or meeting up but when I do I’m like “oh this isn’t bad.” Any advice? I also have a hard time getting comfortable and just feeling judged by other women😅 I’m also 19 so maybe making a change in this now will help in the future making mom friends/friends in general. Thanks in advance!

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