How to stop comparing

Fast approaching the 6 month mark and I feel like arguably this is where babies differ most as all developing at different paces some rolling some not some sleeping some not some on solids/purees some not some in own room some not currently EBF and baby won’t take bottle/ cup we are cosleeping which I have mixed feelings about but needed for survival I’m finding myself comparing mostly on social media which I scroll at night to keep awake for feeds which my baby is still having hourly and the same in the day where I see others feeding 3 hourly I feel like I’m doing something wrong/ not getting it right like a rubbish mum am I hindering my boy somehow just having a tough time at the moment I try not to go on social media as much which I know us an easy fix but in the night it’s just easier to open something and scroll than anything else xx

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No don’t feel like that. My baby is 6 months today. Still feeds every 2 and a half hours. Not rolled yet. Trying but can’t. He can’t sit up on his own yet. His not allowed food yet due to need testing for dairy. He still sleeps a lot not as much as a newborn but still has quite a few naps. His completely different to my first born. But I couldn’t care what anyone else says/thinsk. That’s your baby. They’ll do things in their own time. There still young. X

I'd recommend watching Bluey, Baby Race 😊

Honestly get off social media and download a game or book or something to do during those night feeds. I play a candy crush style game during night feeds 😂 Social media is a nightmare at this stage. You have to remember that what you see on social media is generally not a realistic take on peoples lives! 😅 you are doing amazing and what works for your family, that’s what matters ☺️

I’m on my second baby and she’s literally the opposite of my first in every way. I’ve done nothing different with her, every baby is just different!

Thank you all so much for your reassurance xx

I’m with you on the feeding! My LG can barely do 1.5hrs between feeds both day and night and we’re EBF and co sleeping no matter how hard I try not too, after the 5th wake up by midnight I give in 🫠🤣

As much as you feel in the thick of it with baby (especially baby #1!) no-one is at the nursery door/school gates talking about when their baby rolled over etc..

Also all babies are different. I have two Oct babies (23/25) so comparison is very easy. My 23 boy could roll back to front where as my 25 girl can go front to back. He's petite on 2nd centile whereas she's chonky, he has eczema she doesn't, he was a nightmare for sleeping whereas she's really good, he never settled in pram or car seat whereas she does the list goes on!

Thank you you’re absolutely right x

Oh wow reading this was like a weight off my shoulders because I feel so much of this. I’ve had to take breaks from social media and just have movies on or play games on my phone instead because it’s so hard not to compare when scrolling. But also I try and remind myself baby is happy and healthy I think deep down we know what feels right even if that does mean making things easier for ourselves. Think our babies would want us to relax and feel comfortable because EBF is hard and it takes a lot of energy. It’s just society makes us feel a certain way. You’re doing great! Keep up the good work, stay hydrated and don’t forget to remind yourself that you’re literally feeding your baby from your body you superwoman!

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?