Something you’d never buy second hand?

What is something you’d never buy second hand and can’t believe people do. For me it’s clearly very worn shoes or mattresses🥴

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I always buy underwear and socks new

My cousin got freakin bed bugs from a jacket she thrifted. I won’t do anything with fabric now.

There is no logic behind my answer, as I have thrifted clothing but I would never thrift towels, shower mats, blankets, pillows or comforters. These are also items I don't buy on FB marketplace

Car seat, bathing suits, underwear, mattress

Furniture I'd buy 2nd hand if its in good shape. Clothes no way.

There’s a lot I wouldn’t get second hand but 100% Wouldn’t buy fabric furniture, mattresses or shoes

Wouldn't buy knickers secondhand. Was gonna say underwear but realised I've bought molke bras secondhand.

Any kind of bedding. My sons cot mattress and car seat I bought brand new (mattress for hygiene and car seat for safety)
Other than that underwear.

I’d buy most things second hand apart from bedding, mattress and the very obvious like underwear / bras

Bras, underwear, socks, swimsuits, leggings, bath towels and mats, soft baby toys, and car seats

Underwear, car seats, children's shoes, mattresses, baby bottles

Probably more but they're the main things
Most of our clothes are hand me downs or thrifted

A CAR SEAT!!!

Second hand cups, mugs, plates, bowls! And second hand food appliances e,g toaster, anything to do with food makes me feeel sick even tho I eat out at restaurants so not much logic lol

Underwear, swim suits, furniture and mattress

Mattresses, fabric furniture, clothes that are hard to wash, underwear, swimsuits

Socks , bras , underwear and mattresses and couches .

Wouldn't buy a car seat, mattresses, couch, fabric chair, underwear, bathing suit bottoms etc

My neighbour recently bought a secondhand toilet, I thought that was pretty gross.

haha, that’s a very good point. I guess just seeing them bring this old toilet home and installing it seemed kind of disgusting, but you’re not wrong.

I think mainly socks coz they get gross and linty and a pack of 12 pairs is like $10 anyway my socks are cheap lol.
When I go to a thrift store the first area I zoom to is the shoes lol. I’ve gotten myself some super comfy sneakers and heels for like $10. It’s not super worn out though, they look brand new. Either wasn’t their style or they bought online and wasn’t their size, coz I can’t believe how comfy those sneakers i picked up were. I’ve bought bras and sports bars from thrift stores too. They can be washed. Anything that can be washed I don’t mind buying used. Even bikinis.

Car seat!

Car seat
Bassinet/crib/pram (unless previously owned by only family)
Dummies/teething toys
Bottles (unless family owned)

in our community

Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.