Hard to relate to others

I feel like I struggle so much with finding people I can be myself around. Before pregnancy it was hard enough, now as I mom i feel like im never going to have a real friend. Im an "alt conservative" ive always had dyed hair and I love tattoos though I only have one for now. Im a Christian, though I tend to be uncomfortable in church because of my social anxiety and ive never had anyone to go with. A lot of conservative people get nervous to talk to me because they think im liberal so they keep me at arms length and liberal people tend to freak out and block me when they find out im conservative or they'll push me and try to make me do things im uncomfortable with. I used to just smile and fake my way through social interactions but now its so important for me to model confidence in myself to my boy. To have my bright colored hair, because its just hair its fun it doesnt hurt anyone, but to praise god.

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Upstate ny mamas 🌳💕

Upstate NY mamas! 💕 Looking for my mom-besties! I am on the younger side, I have one bonus baby and one bio baby, 420 friendly 🍃 , down for drinks 🍾, and always down for coffee & playdates or just a good chat while the kids play. 🫶🏼 No drama✨anyone near Chautauqua 🥰? 💗

mums without mums 💔😪

Anyone else no contact with their mum or other family members? It is so hard and isolating, I wish I could have had that perfect family, my baby should have grandma and other family!! I tried so many times to fix it and to deal with my mom and at least try to stay cordial and ignore her remarks but my mom was always so overly dramatic and mean to me, she even said I’m not her child anymore and to not come around for holidays about 4 years ago because she didn’t like the guy I’m with 💔😪 Our relationship was always strained since I was a child too..

Distance

Why is it that when I’m swiping to find friends (within a 15 mile radius) it’s showing people over an hour away… I live in NWI and it’s showing people all the way in Chicago. Like cool I’m open to talking but let’s be honest I don’t wanna travel to Chicago to meet up with someone or have them travel all the way here! Why can’t it just show me people near me and be done with it?

I'm 34 and would love to build a bestfriendship!

I’m 34 and looking to build a genuine, meaningful friendship—not just someone to occasionally text. I’m a mom, love animals, and enjoy trying new things, laughing until my stomach hurts, and making memories. 🥰 I’m looking for a best-friend type of connection where we can talk about anything, support each other, grab coffee, go shopping, have girls’ nights, or just hang out and do absolutely nothing. 😂 I’m big on loyalty, honesty, and being there for the people I care about. I’d love to meet someone who’s looking for a real friendship that can grow into something lasting.

Fed up!

Is anyone else just finding this stage really, really hard? The tantrums, the not listening, my LO is fully in their hitting and kicking era. I get told I’m a good Mum but the point is that my LO doesn’t make me FEEL like I’m a good Mum if that makes sense? I took them out this morning and I felt like everyone was watching their behaviour. I looked around and it felt as though every other Mum/toddler was having a lovely time. I ended up cutting our trip short as I had enough and cried as soon as I got in the car. I find it easy to open up and to speak to friends about how I feel, but the hard bit in that is I find very rarely do I get met with ‘yes we’re going through that too!’ I feel like there’s such a thing with people wanting to make out things are perfect rather than just being honest!

Birthday cost

Is £300-£400 a normal amount to spend on your child’s birthday?

I think that’s so standard when you consider presents, clothes, decorations, cake and an outing. My partner thinks a 2 year olds birthday shouldn’t cost this much as they won’t remember it and I get what he’s saying but the cost of everything is so expensive I think it’s hard for it not to cost that much.

Thoughts?