Fiancé won’t talk to baby

Am I being dramatic? Im 23 weeks and my fiancé refuses to talk to the baby. He touches my belly sometimes but that’s the most he’ll do. I brought it up to him saying it’s important for him to have bonding time with baby while baby is developing but he refuses and tells me not to dictate his relationship with his child. Is this a red flag?

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Yeah that’s a little weird especially if you spoke to him about it and he feels like your being judge-mental because that’s the honest truth the best time to bond is now and then the baby will know his voice and touch but if he refrains from speaking to the baby then don’t stress it’s his lost if the baby is more attached to you

I would say everyone is different and I wouldn’t consider it a red flag. Putting the pressure on to talk to your belly may make it uncomfortable for him . As parents there will be so many times of differing opinions

I want to say it’s not a red flag but my ex was the same (he wouldn’t even touch my belly) and now he’s a 4x a month type of dad so idk . :(
Pregnant with my 2nd now and my husband loves touching my belly and talking to her. He even reads to her every night.

My hubby didn’t talk much to the baby at all he didn’t have much of a bond w the baby in my belly but he’ll guard me in public and make sure no one bumps into me etc. but y’know what, we talked to EACH OTHER so much that when baby was born as soon as his daddy started talking the baby did a full 90° turn w his head to find the source 😂 he didn’t talk to baby he talked to ME. A lot. We talk so much. That baby recognised and looked for his voice and gave him a big grin and shocked him “wow can’t believe he recognised my voice, that’s incredible” he said. The bond came at birth. He did massage my belly w oil though 🥰

My husband never spoke to our first while he was in my belly (also hasn't with this one) and they have an amazing relationship now. I don't think it occurred to either of us to have him try. I would find it really uncomfortable to have him talk to my belly personally. I don't think this has to be a red flag especially if he is otherwise excited about the baby.

No its not weird . Not all men react that way or even really acknowledge much of the pregnancy. This baby dad will rub and touch my stomach but you will only catch him kissing or actually being there closer to time baby comes .

One more thing you'll learn over time you and dad will bond with baby in your own ways and in your own times.

Well my husband loves to talk to baby bump but it’s all just plotting against me and the trouble they’re going to get into soooo. Idk what’s worse 😂

I don’t think it’s a red flag. I’ve had friends whose husbands were like this until the baby was actually out. Now they’re the best dads 💕 give it some time!

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