Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

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I agree in a way like donating plasma shouldn’t be looked at like a job/gig. I think once in a while is fine but not something on a regular basis. That’s just how I look at it but I think you should have your own money. Either he can give you a small “allowance” so that you can do things you wanna do like hair/nails done. Or maybe selling your crafts on Etsy for that extra $$.

I've heard donating plasma can be a lot on your body. So either way just be careful with it.

I hate to say but I agree with your husband and I think it was really sweet of him to sell his gun to get you some money. Have you talked to him about getting spending money for your wants? Cuz you are entitled to it being a sahm cuz that’s a job too.

I get wanting your own income but donating plasma on the regular is very hard on the body. I’d try to find something else to bring in some money.

Your husband seems rational and like he would be willing to talk about what you want. I would stop the donations and make better plan with him

(Also that physically hurt me to type because fuck a man always)

I would love to donate my plasma, but unfortunately I’m not allowed because I have Autoimmune diseas and I’m not taking meds. So I think if you’re healthy then why not?

Donating plasma twice a week?? Babe, c’mon- that’s too much for one person.. 😖🙏🏾 I get it’s money outside of his paycheck, but that’s hella taxing on your body..

I dont think its about the plasma its about you desiring to make your income. There's still a part of you that wants that piece of empowerment and independence to contribute and get your own things..even though you have a man willing to work and sell stuff for you. That is valid and hard to understand by others but it's natural. So he's kinda missing the point and I think your conflicted because that's what's really being threatened rn

Why can’t you get a job a couple of days of the week at the time that he’s home with the kid?

Or even work weekends

And yes, stop donating all of that plasma wtf. Have you even researched the negative effects of doing it so often??

Ask him for a certain amount each week and zelle request him to remind him. $200 weekly isnt bad seems reasonable but start high say 300 and see what he say..

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My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?