Abandonment

I had an epiphany last night and I recognized I have severe abandonment issues. Everyone in my life has abandoned me at one point or another including people most important to me. I constantly do for others to try and keep them in my life and get them to realize they love me and need me so they won’t leave but I end up being disappointed. I’m exhausting my husband with the constant need for his presence and reassurance. I need help. I had an appointment for therapy just to be told they are out of network the day before. I am trying to go through my insurance but I have Medicaid and need something virtual for now because I have an infant and my husband works all day. I can’t afford out of pocket. I am desperately trying to find something so please don’t comment and say do therapy. What I’d like to know is if you have had/have these same issues what helps you? What has your therapist told you to do? I need something to help me in the meantime while navigating this process.

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I haven't been in therapy but here is what I would do.

Get an Audible subscription (or similar, libraries in the UK have a audiobooks app available for free for example). Download CoPilot. Tell CoPilot what you want to work on and ask it for a list of book suggestions. You can listen to books while pushing the pram or while feeding/doing house chores.

And start journaling, you can ask Copilot for appropriate promts.

I am not suggesting you use AI as a therapist, please do not do that! It is good however at analysing public book reviews and forums and can definitely help cut down on your research time.

Hey I hope ur feeling better now. Reaching out helps too. Try eventbrite or meetup if you don’t find what you’re looking for you can always create your own group or podcast

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