Am I wrong?

I’m EBF but recently I feel like I’m not getting enough for my baby. I feed him allll the time it’s literally every 30 minutes. And he still cries and is fussy after a feed. I started mixing formula with breast milk at night just so we can both get more sleep. Today I was rushing and super busy and has zero time to breast feed or pump milk. I mixed him a formula bottle for the drive while I pumped since I didn’t want him crying. My husband started getting angry and yelling at me saying he shouldn’t have formula since I produce milk. He said never give it to him again I don’t care if he’s crying you can pump and feed him. It made me feel horrible because a fed baby is a happy baby and I didn’t see anything wrong with it if he’s still 99% breast fed and only gets formula RARELY. This is the first time it was given by itself as not mixed and he made it a huge deal. Am I wrong for giving it to him that way? Or feeling upset?

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You need to do what is best for your mental health. Not even your husband should tell you, and it is not wrong. What is wrong with him?

It’s definitely not your husbands prerogative. YOU’RE the primary caregiver and you know your baby better than him regardless of how much time he spends with him. Give that baby formula if you feel like he needs it; the baby needs to be fed either way. But also, breast milk does move through the system faster apparently. You’re doing great! Keep showing up & doing what you need for the benefit for YOU and the needs of your baby

A fed baby is what matters. Whether that’s breast milk, formula, or a mix your baby being full, calm, and cared for is the priority. Giving a formula bottle because you were busy and trying to prevent your baby from crying in the car is not just “okay” it’s good parenting.

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