Are these men ok?

So I am gay now but when I was with my husband (we had split for years before i figured out I am gay) and he was an abusive, useless man. He went to Disneyland with his BM and son when I was a 2 weeks pp and had only been home with our son for a week cuz he was a nicu baby. I thought he went for his son’s birthday so I had thought I was being understanding only to find out after I was pregnant with baby number 2 (6 months pregnant) that it was really a babymoon for their second child…. He was living a whole double life. So yeah I too had a shitty (male) partner and am way happier to be single.

Marrying my husband was the best decision I’ve ever made. He’s been my best friend & biggest support system since I was 17. He’s the best!

We’ve had difficult patches but I’d not want to go through life or parenthood without him!

My husband is my best friend. We’re high school sweethearts 💕 he was soooo helpful during my pregnancy and post partum. He’s an amazing dad and husband. He’s definitely not perfect (no one is) but I couldn’t ask for a better partner in this

I SHOULD HAVE STAYED SINGLE

I was thinking about that as well… it breaks my heart when I see those posts.. I love my husband to death!! I don’t know how I could
Ever live in this world without him. He makes everything everything so much better for me
And my daughter..

My hubs is shocked at the number of these posts & need to put out all the content to help avoid these men, only to have men like this comment on those posts too. He has an employee like this & can’t exactly go off on him, but he can laugh or look stunned at the dumb stuff he says. Unfortunately, this guy is my hubs friend & assistant manager’s long term BF & he’s found himself telling him to cook his own damn meals a few times recently. She’s a bit older than my hubs & was just diagnosed w/COPD & been having health & $ issues & dude is an inconsiderate AH who complains about her not doing as much, when she’s the breadwinner & does way more. We knew they were out there & the rarity, but they are deff loud & these women have a voice these days.

Also though, I find it hilarious how many women these days actually believe that men & women are so different from each other & that we should know that men can’t multitask things like childcare & household tasks. The first time I read that I was STUNNED, like wtf, if that was the case they’d never be able to keep a job, women would be ruling the world for all these incompetent men. I read one to my hubs yesterday & his response was “well that’s insulting”, I was like yeah, but less insulting than “women being too emotional” to be in the workplace or especially upper level positions w/I companies or government, that’s when we both laugh bc we both went into management & our most emotional employees are almost always men, a woman could be a single mom working 2 jobs & you see her come in w/swollen eyes only to put on her work face & get the job done, then like right now he has a guy mad that he can’t fight w/employees who don’t agree w/him politically & has stamped around for months.😂

My husband is my person, other half, all the cliches.
With that, after our first I will say I did expect more hands on from him in the very beginning. He was so loving and affectionate with me, I assuming it would… translate.
The NICU gave him a fear of hurting bubs when he was so tiny, and the wires. He would stop breathing while eating. I think he fed him once in the hospital. Always “wanted to watch to learn”.
Then we ended up EBF after he came home. Was almost like he was scared of him, honestly.
So he did everything else he could to help, take care of me, clean, cook, etc.

15mths, they’re best friends now and he’s a great hands on dad. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’ll say it like this, I’ve never gotten to a point in any of it where I questioned him & I being together. Or him as an actual father. Just had to… be patient, teach him a little, learn how to care for a baby myself and grow together.
Which like is the whole point, isn’t it?