Been called a horrible parent
So my partner has called me a horrible parent, pathetic and selfish
So basically our son has toys in his room and he finds the biggest one to stand on to climb over his baby gate and then after this he has free reign of the whole house... He's worked out how to unlock child locks on the fridge and cupboards so this morning for example he helped himself to a yoghurt and even a spoon from the drawer where the knives are.
So I've switched the baby gate to a more difficult one to open because he even worked out bow to open the gate, and Ive most of his toys out his room and now my partner had called me selfish because I want to lie in a morning, which is true but I don't want my self and our daughter to be woken up at 5-6am when my alarm is set between 7am and 7:45am I usually wake between those times anyway.
Came home from work tonight and all my partner has done is try to argue his point that I should get the locks you put on the doors and so be can't get anywhere around the house and even said put it on our door but he kicked off when I said we can put it on his door instead arguing what if he's sick and chokes on it or if something happens and we can't hear but it would be the same thing if we put it on our door...
My son is 4 and he may have autism, but calling me a horrible parent is just uncalled for because yeah I don't wanna be woke up at the crack of dawn but at the same time I want my fucking child to be safe! He came down to the kitchen this morning before even entering our bedroom...
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I’m sorry - why is your partner not up at 5-6AM with your son if he has an issue with it?
I do agree that when your child is awake, you need to be awake. But that applies to either parent.
Unfortunately when you have kids you kind of give up the right to have lie ins.. and giving him all his toys in his room will only reinforce this, if you want him to sleep later then you’ll either need a later bedtime or even go and lie in his bed with him until 7am, show him its not wake up time yet. If its your husband waking him up at that time then have some white noise on.
I agree with your husband you cannot but a lock on his door. Why can’t you babygate the stairs? Remove the toys that allow him to climb over the baby gate to i assume his room?
6am is a reasonable time for kids to wake up, if you need a certain amount of hours a night for yourself, go to bed earlier
Calling you a horrible /selfish /pathetic parent is disgusting and immature behaviour from your partner.
There will always be times when a parent needs to improve something and that should be approached with support and kindness not vile name calling.
If you want to secure the stair gate a little more try a climbing carabiner.
Unfortunately is right that we give up lie ins when we have kids. I’m lucky if I get to sleep until 6am. X
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So my partner has called me a horrible parent, pathetic and selfish
So basically our son has toys in his room and he finds the biggest one to stand on to climb over his baby gate and then after this he has free reign of the whole house... He's worked out how to unlock child locks on the fridge and cupboards so this morning for example he helped himself to a yoghurt and even a spoon from the drawer where the knives are.
So I've switched the baby gate to a more difficult one to open because he even worked out bow to open the gate, and Ive most of his toys out his room and now my partner had called me selfish because I want to lie in a morning, which is true but I don't want my self and our daughter to be woken up at 5-6am when my alarm is set between 7am and 7:45am I usually wake between those times anyway.
Came home from work tonight and all my partner has done is try to argue his point that I should get the locks you put on the doors and so be can't get anywhere around the house and even said put it on our door but he kicked off when I said we can put it on his door instead arguing what if he's sick and chokes on it or if something happens and we can't hear but it would be the same thing if we put it on our door...
My son is 4 and he may have autism, but calling me a horrible parent is just uncalled for because yeah I don't wanna be woke up at the crack of dawn but at the same time I want my fucking child to be safe! He came down to the kitchen this morning before even entering our bedroom...
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