Feeling lonely

How do you guys maintain a relationship while taking care of a toddler? I feel like I initiate all of the plans for us to do family outings or even date nights and I’m tired of it. I feel like we’re drifting away from each other and I’m shocked that he thinks otherwise

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Hi dear, thanks for sharing and it’s a rough time to thrive in a relationship during the baby and toddler years.

Personally, I’ve been married almost 20 years and we only started having children four years ago. I have trust issues and I had to make sure he’d be a good father lol.

We have a four-year-old a two-year-old and a one month old right now. He usually works between 10 and 12 hours a day and temporary project so we’ve been moving around a lot which is very stressful.

What’s working for me? Lately is communicating with positive energy what I want more of. I do realize that he has a lot on his mind and literally this week. I found out that ChatGPT could help me plan our family outings because it saves so much energy and time doing that type of research.

Literally go to ChatGPT, whether the application or the website and ask it to help you with this.

For example: I asked ChatGPT “would you give me a list of toddler educational places or classes that take place in person within 40 minute drive of this address?“

In the fashion then also ask it to help you plan date nights or fun, family activities. The more specific you are with what you need the better the answers will be.

Also I’m learning and reading about communication / relationships/ energy consciousness and it has helped me understand each other and express myself better.

It’s taken us a long time to even become aware of what the underlying issues are and so of u want ur relationship to work , it will 🤗 just be patient with urself and each other now and keep working on it 💚 with loving kindness and loving urself first so he’ll be attracted to u instead of feeling “needy” which usually repels ppl.

“Nothing is personal” also , I read that in the book 📕 “The Four Agreements “ and it changed my life for the better 💚

Oh yeah and if either of u still drink alcohol 🍺 🍷… stop 🛑 immediately. That will lead to issues/ fights / resentments/divorce , I promise .

We’ve been 4 years sober this year and every year we get better and closer than ever before 💚

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?