Fed up of people asking if baby is sleeping through the night..

Anyone else?! My little one wakes to feed 1-2 times I night which I know is normal, yet friends, family and strangers seemed to be obsessed with whether she is sleeping through the night yet!
Obviously, I'd love her to be, but also know it could be alot worse!
I feel like I'm being judged, as in if my baby sleeps through, then I've somehow nailed the whole parenting thing, and if I haven't, I'm not doing very well 🤦‍♀️ I know that's not the case, but its how it makes me feel sometimes... 😖 it's like it's the be all and end all!

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Me tooooo. It’s so annoying . It’s normal for babies to wake up in the night . I just ignore them when they try to talk about it or give advice on how I can make him sleep throughout the night

Same. Mine wakes anywhere from 6-10 times every night since 3.5 months old and everyone is obsessed with how he should be "sleeping through"

So annoying! Just give them the answer that makes them shut up. Like “yes best sleeper ever” or “you’d have to be there to find out” or whatever you feel like

I just go “yes she is” and that shuts down further questions. Who’s gonna be with me staying up to check anyway 😁
Don’t know why people make unnecessary competitions out of baby’s basic habits- eat, sleep, poop etc. It’s like they are finding avenues to judge. So I’m like I’m winning this make believe competition get me my crown 😎

It‘s their way of trying to connect with you. They may not know a different approach

Yeah and they keep telling when she starts eating she will sleep through the night then i just look at my 1st daughter she is 3 and STILL wakes up 2 times for no reason i have tried everything

Its just a chapter with a hard test i hope it will pass but oooh how much i wish that no one interfere on this specially when i dont ask for advice or even mention it

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