Partners doing the night feeds?

Does anyone’s partner do the night feeds ? I’m doing the 9pm and 4am feed but My partner is a night owl and does the midnight feed then comes to bed. Baby is in the lounge with him until midnight then he brings him into the bedroom with me at midnight until I wake at 4am to feed him. Is this ok? Worried it’s going to get baby into a bad routine at night time as he gets bigger

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My husband is also a night owl and is on duty until midnight and then it’s me. Only difference is that baby is actually in the bedroom with me while I sleep and we have a baby monitor so before baby cries, he can hear him and I just sleep through it completely. Bedtime is 7pm for him so husband and I get time for each other between 7pm and me going to bed. x

My hubby is a night owl too but since going back to work I do the nights and the days until he finishes. Killing me off if I'm honest 😂 because she doesn't sleep at night at all or in her next to me so I'm getting about an hour's sleep a night. My baby is only 4 weeks old so don't know when this will change

How old is your baby? Mine is 8 weeks and on a good night we do a feed at 00 then at 3 am. As they grow older they will not need feeding at night at all.

My husband does til 12 or 2 with the baby downstairs and then I do from when he brings him up. He doesn’t have a bedtime as such though because he’s feeding too regularly. I’m hoping once he’s around 3 months that will settle a bit. At the moment it’s every 1.5-2 hours.

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