Prefers dad and im really struggling, help!
I just want to some reassurance or someone to say that its the same for them, because im really struggling.
My little boy has always preferred dad, and it breaks my heart and makes me feel like a terrible mum. I spend slightly more time with him, I work 4 days, dad works 5, so I feel like he should have the attachment to me?
I wonder what ive done wrong to make him never want me. Whenever hes upset he just wants his dad. Whenever he wakes up hes shouting dada from his cot. When his dad isnt there he is fine with me looking after him but if dad is at home, he doesnt want me. And it's been like this for as long as hes been able to show a preference.
Its putting me off having another child because I think I must be a terrible mum for him to feel like that.
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My little boy is the same, but he sees dad maybe half as much as me, so I think for me it’s been two things - 1. It’s the novelty and fun of having dad about a bit less than me, and 2. His dad is naturally less frazzled than me because I’ve been with my little one experiencing tantrums and breastfeeding and cooking etc a lot more so my partner comes in fresh and excited, whereas I’m a bit knackered by the end of the day. If it was the other way around I think he’d be more excited to see me! I think they just go through phases, but you’re not a bad mum, it just means you’ve chosen a really great partner for your little one to adore and look up to
Thank you, that makes me feel alot better xx
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