Are we all living the same life?

Out of curiosity, have anyone ever left their partner for not helping around the house much ?My partner works overnights and I work the day shift. We have different days off. We have two kids together. Baby and toddler. On my days off I manage to get the house clean and clean the bathroom. It’s hard for me to clean the bedroom since he is sleeping there during the day on my days off. But he doesn’t clean the bedroom on his days off. He BARELY clean the house. And when I say clean I mean like wipe stuff down, tables, walls, kitchen cabinets, clean bathrooms. He version of cleaning is just sweep and mop and sometime washing dishes (which he never puts the dishes away). And sometime if he’s not too tired he would pick up the kids toys at night. He does wash clothes all the time but he HARLY FOLD THEM AND OUT THEM AWAY. So the clothes gets wrinkle and then I become pissed because now I have to get kids ready for school, pack their lunch, some time bathe them every morning and having to iron their clothes. He claims he too tired all the damn time. I don’t how long I can keep the relationship going. I don’t want to be intimate with him because I’m so tired. I do so much. And he does so little. I know working overnight is HARD! I did it myself with no kids. But I feel like I’m doing more….. his thing is he’s with the kids more because he has to pick them up from daycare at 6PM every day. But he puts them to bed at 7:30PM/8PM most days……anyways I’m becoming fed up and starting to resent my relationship…. I’ve tried talking to him but it turns into this fight ALL THE TIME. I’m not sure what I’m looking for out this post. I’m just venting and pretty annoyed this morning. Maybe my period is coming and everything is bothering me 😫

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It sounds like you’re both busy, tired and not spending much time together as a couple. Even little things like sleeping together in the same bed or having meals together helps. Everything doesn’t have to be done perfectly and exactly the way that you want it to be. What things can you let go? What’s more important? Is it okay for the cleaning to be done another time? All this expectation is probably hurting yourself too. Working nights is hard, he does do some cleaning and looks after the kids. Sometimes it’s better to just let some things go and appreciate what does get done.

Gonna be honest, I haven't had time to clean the bathroom since Christmas, spending time with my family is more important to me. I could do it, but baby would want me after two minutes of Daddy time and he hates doing the bathroom, I think picking your battles is where you've got to be, is it worth being pissed about this?
I'm waiting for the next time my MIL comes at a weekend so she can entertain the baby and I can do the cleaning, I do it much quicker than my OH so would get annoyed at him taking too long, and he wouldn't do it how I like either 🤣

With both of you so busy and working opposite schedules, it could be worth looking at getting a cleaner.

I do a fair bit more cleaning than my husband, but I work 3 days a week while he works full time. He more than pulls his weight though, the kitchen and food shop are his domain.

Just to add a different point, check in on his diet/exercise routine and he could go see a doctor about his tiredness if it's "that bad". Everyone thinks it's normal to be tired when living busy lives but really we just don't get enough nutrients or water or exercise.

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