MIL Rant

My husband and I are both working parents but I am our son’s primary parent. However, when we see or talk to my MIL and she asks questions about the baby, she only looks to my husband for answers. I love my husband and he is an excellent dad, but most of the time, he just looks at me to answer because he doesn’t know. My MIL will continue staring at my husband while I answer her question and almost act like I didn’t say anything until he repeats exactly what I just said.

She also likes to pretend she doesn’t hear me when I tell her to give me my son when he cries or when he needs changed. She’s pissed that in large group settings I prefer to hold my son and told my husband that I need to learn to share. Ma’am, he’s my baby. Not a toy.

I told my husband he should talk to her before I do because I won’t be as nice. He just keeps telling me that she means well.

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Ew. No. She doesn’t mean well at all. Blatantly ignoring you, acting like you’re not there when you’re literally answering HER questions that. Saying you need to learn to share…? She needs to learn to share her son’s attention then 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ what a weirdo.

Definitely speak to her about it.

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Sorry that you’re going through that . I notice that parents will often go to their own kids first , which is fine but she should try to have a better relationship with you . Mine can be something too , I’ve started to speak up because they will be stuck with me for the rest of their lives and I’m going to parent my child the way that I want to not how they want .

Don’t be afraid to say no .

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Yeah no she doesn’t I would talk to tell her if she can’t respect you as his mother then she won’t have nothing to do with your son she has this unhealthy relationship in her head with her son she looked for a husband in her son because she didn’t have a good relationship with hers

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