Curious…

Hello! Can i ask you mamas what your husband/partner does for a living that allows you to comfortably be a SAHM? We’d like to eventually transition to that as our family grows, but also want the freedom to build the life we want. Also open to hearing if any of you work remote or side gigs to help contribute financially? Much appreciated! 🩵🩵🩵

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My husband is a plumber 🧑‍🔧 & I’m going to school to be a behavioral analyst so I will be able to go back to work when my kids reach school age! My biggest advice is don’t go out to eat & shop at Aldis for groceries those two things alone save us so much money!

My partner works for CN Railway as a conductor/engineer. Financially, great job... But he is gone for 24-36 hours 3-4 times a week.

I make what I can from scratch and we shop discount / bulk when we can. We also seldomly eat out and I get most of mine and my children's clothes second hand. 🖤

My husband is an assistant professor but we have taken a big hit since I've been staying home. I'm a teacher and we really relied on what I made as well. We have been using savings to offset things but we really didn't know we would have another child, much less twins!

My husband is a software engineer (8 years experience, the market is swamped with new computer science majors right now). We'll be taking a big hit when our baby is born and I stay home (30% income decrease)

My husband is a partner at 2 companies, one that fabricates custom saws for lumber companies and the like, and one that manufactures mining equipment. I don’t work from home or contribute financially and it’s what I’ve always wanted for myself haha

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Friends??

Heyy!! My name is Marie I’m 24 and I’m a ftm and sahm to a 5 month old baby boy🩵. I find it really hard to make/keep friends 😅. Honestly I’m kinda inconsistent, like we could text for days and suddenly I stop texting for a while (hence why it’s hard to keep friends) but I will always be there and answer whenever you text!! I’m from MA but I’m down to lone distance friendships🫶🏽

Do you ever feel like ‘damaged goods’ since becoming a Mum?

So basically my partner and I are not on great terms, and haven’t been for a while now. I keep thinking this might be it for us and we’d be better off separating, but one thing always comes to mind when I think about ever meeting someone new. I know in the grander scheme of things that meeting someone else isn’t exactly top priority but I hate to think of a life where I’m single forever, so of course it crossed my mind a lot.
The thing which worries me is that ever since having a child and becoming a Mum I feel like I’m damaged goods, in the eyes of anyone else that is. I feel like no one would ever be interested in me again.

Does anyone else have this feeling, or felt this way in the past?

I’m in a straight relationship but I miss sex with women

I have been in and out of straight and lesbian relationships for years. Although I love my partner and can see a future with him I just don’t really get in the mood for him in that way and miss how women would make me feel during intercourse

Should I even engage with this lady?

I started to ask if ladies wanted to be friends on Threads and this girl responds to the to connect with me but she posts on her own page that she's seeking friends (plus a list of characteristics and hobbies in common shes lookkng for) and then said no kids. I thought that was so weird

Phone passcode

This isn’t really to do with pregnancy/birth.. but my husband has changed his phone passcode (I probably shouldn’t have tried snooping). But after our first, our relationship went through the wringer and tbh neither of us were perfect, I’ll hold my hands up to that. But he was sexting another girl for a while. We’ve worked so hard on our relationship since then and now married.. so I don’t know if I’m just being paranoid because of that and near my due date, but I’ll be honest intimacy is low atm so worried he’s finding it somewhere else even if it’s on the phone.. do I come clean and ask why his passcode has changed even though it shows I tried to look or leave it?

Genuine friends??

Looking for girlies ! Besties/ hype girls/ long distance friends. ANYTHING. Seems like everytime I think a conversation is good people just stop texting back ? Even tho I’m the one holding the convos and actually answering. Just want genuine girlies to talk to 😢