please help me

That's not just a you problem then. If he's acting that way towards you and you feel like he's not putting any effort in then even if it's going to cause a fight you need to have a real conversation with him about it. You can't have a good relationship with someone if you can't be real with them. Of course you're not happy if he never shows you any love and doesn't put effort in. It's not totally your responsibility to carry everything

Has he picked up a second job or extra hours or something?

I asked because a lot of men will act like they're so stressed trying to provide for the family, when in reality their job description/work hours havent changed very much, if at all. My husband tried to pull that with me and I was like what has actually changed for you? Meanwhile my "work load" and day to day responsibilities have changed drastically.

Even if he IS stressed about work, he should still be able to help with the baby enough to allow you to at least have some time to yourself. Maybe have a hobby outside the house or go make friends or whatever you'd like.

You'd know the situation better than me of course, but I just worry that him saying this to you is basically trying to convince you that it's normal for you to be doing everything baby related
While he coasts by doing the bare minimum. Aside from working, which he'd be doing without a baby anyways.

absolutely. He helps, definitely could help more but it’s more like he shuts himself away to work. And say then he’ll give her a bath and hang out with her and then fall asleep. It’s just like that on repeat I don’t know, I wish he, wanted to work on the relationship right now but he says to just let things happen naturally. Which feels unfair, but I appreciate your insight.

You are also only 5 months PP, it takes up to two years for our hormones to regulate and it’s normal to feel lonely or hopeless during this time. I know I did. Be kind to yourself and try to take it one day at a time.

Is it possible to get a babysitter for a few hours and have date night?

I’m 3 yrs into motherhood and still have a man child 🤣

But it’s his ow problem. I take the time for myself outside of being a mother each day. I go out and do what I gotta do for me

He has zero friends. Legit zero so he doesn’t go out because he doesn’t want to go out alone. Tough shit that’s your fault at that point. Not mine

He always wants to project and no take accountability

I have zero issue with going out alone and I do it often. I don’t need anyone to have a good time. Sure, it’s nice to have company once in awhile but I enjoy things most people don’t so I rather be alone