Since I gave birth, I don’t see a reason to stay in my relationship.

Since I’ve had my baby I feel like having a partner is so unnecessary to me. Don’t get me wrong I love my partner and he is amazing but there’s so many things he does that frustrate me and I’m starting to realise that i don’t really need a man because he’s already fulfilled the role of giving me a child.

Today it hit me more than ever. So my partner has been up at 3am for work and he’s been working super hard and lifting all day so fair enough . Anyway he was too tired to drive me to the corner shop which is 5 minutes away. Now I don’t drive (I’m learning) so me and our 5 month old son had to walk half an hour to the shop and half an hour back to get food so I could cook dinner.

Baring in mind we live in the middle of nowhere so I had to walk down country lanes which is dangerous as cars zoom past and there is no footpath. It was also 6:30pm so it was getting dark and it was raining.

By the time we were walking back it was pitch black and the rain had turned into a storm and my umbrella broke and I was soaking wet trying to cover my baby who was attached to me via a baby carrier. I called up my man and told him to pick us up straight away as our baby was getting wet.

Now I’m sat here like why tf should I put up with this foolishness. I live with my auntie so I have a roof over my head, me and my family are close and they support me in every which way. I don’t rely on my partner financially so why am I in a relationship. I love him but that’s pretty much the only reason I’m with him when you look at it. My son is my whole heart and he’s my reason to live so why am I with someone who I have to clean up after and cook for. I mean everything that comes with having a boyfriend/husband I get from my friends and family, minus sex obviously but I have a vibrator for that lmao.

I’m just thinking that the Cons out weigh the pros here. I also solo parent 98% of the time and do all the feeds during the night so what’s the benefit here.

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Nursery costs

How much do you pay a month for nursery? And for how many hours?

Childminder or nursery

I’ve noticed that most people in the UK talk about nurseries and how expensive they are, but hardly anyone mentions childminders. From what I understand, childminders are often more affordable, more flexible (for example, if you need to pick up your child a bit later), and they provide a more home-like environment.

They also usually involve a single main caregiver, which I feel can be really positive for attachment, especially for younger children.

So why don’t more people use childminders? Is there any stigma around them in the UK?

I’m asking because my baby goes to a childminder and I’m starting to worry—are they seen as a worse option? Personally, I see some downsides to nurseries too: they tend to be more expensive, and because there are many more children (often of different ages) in the same space, I feel like that can lead to a higher risk of illnesses spreading.

So I’m curious why nurseries seem to be the more popular choice.

Advice please - I need to approach work about asking for flexibility in school holidays

My little boy is due to start pre school in September and at the moment I work 3days a week but during the holidays I probably will only be able to get childcare for maybe 1 or 2 at the most.

How do I go about speaking to work, feel like im being such a pain asking?

Childcare for toddler during labour

For those of you who don't have any family or friends nearby enough to jump in to look after your older child, how did you manage labour and going to hospital to give birth? I'm only 5 weeks pregnant but already stressing about it!

Solids/food

Guys, where are we all standing on starting to introduce foods? My little one is nearly 5months and is really interested in food. My sister gave her a taste of a quaver on the weekend and I've never seen her so eager and happy. I dont know what to do

please help me

my partner and I haven’t been getting along well since having a baby five months postpartum and he said something today that I think summed everything up well, as much as I hate it and wish he didn’t feel that way.

He said after having a baby it’s common for the guys to be stressed and focusing on providing and work and the woman to be taking care of the baby and feeling on the outside. And that I’m just not handling it well.

I know he could be a better partner, but I do feel that that is the issue. I really don’t know how to handle it because I don’t have friends or a life outside ofthis house. How do you guys deal with that? I just feel like my relationship went dry and all I do is take care of the baby and he doesn’t put any effort. He actually went completely cold on me and distances himself knowing how much love would mean. It definitely brought out the worst side of him.

And the thing is, there was a week where I was focusing on myself and being more happy with or without him, and I saw a slight positive change in him