I hate the newborn age

Is it normal to actually hate the newborn phase? We are 8 days old so still very new to this and I’m a FTM. I thought I would LOVE having a newborn baby. I’m so overwhelmed and anxious if I’m getting anything right, if she’s happy if she’s fed if she’s gassy if she’s sleeping enough that I’m just not finding much joy in the newborn stage at all. I feel pretty lonely (even though my husband is the biggest support system and my absolute rock). Finding exclusively breastfeeding tricky and sort of wishing away these early weeks so we can get some sort of routine in place! Anyone else the same?

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I HATED the newborn stage! Baby had colic. We had trouble with breastfeeding and I actually gave up (later learnt that she had a tongue tie and regretted giving up on it). She would cry allllll the time. She also hated the car seat so I didn't even feel confident taking her out cos the car journey would be awful. She's now 8 months and an absolute gem! I'm loving spending our time together now and I do not want to go back to work in 2 weeks! I do regret wishing those newborn days away though and wish I'd just gone with the flow and relaxed into it a bit more as she has grown up so quickly! It's so true when they say they grow up in the blink of eye!
So I know it's hard but do try to enjoy your newborn stage. You'll miss it when it's gone. X

The newborn stage is really hard! People always say stuff like how they're the easiest they'll ever be cause they can't move, but i strongly disagree, the feeling of not being able to move as you're in constant need is horrible. I honestly stopped breastfeeding because of the anxiety it was giving me and I don't really regret it. My little one is now 5 months old, has always been happy and healthy. I am much more enjoying this stage, where she can now smile and "chat" to me and it makes it all seem worth it, let's not lie, they kinda start off as potatoes 🤣

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