Hi all,
Just picked my LG up from her 3rd and last settling in session with nursery and the last 2 times we’ve picked her up, she’s been inconsolably crying. Do I ask the nursery if they think she needs any more settling in sessions or do I just hope it gets better when she starts going full time? She’ll be going 2 full days a week so she does need to be comfortable with them.
They said they think she’s tired when I did hand over but since we’ve got home she’s back running around my living room playing and being her usual self. In the car she did look tired and she’s had a cuddle and bottle since.
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Hey! Obviously every baby is different and you should go with your gut and what feel right for you as it’s a big step but wanted to share that we had 4 settle sessions and I was called into the last one as she just wouldn’t settle but was fine when we left - she went in the next week for her first day and was absolutely fine - i would say though that I got her started before I went back to work so that if it didn’t go well I was around to get her and we used that week to gradually build to a full day (6hrs day one, 7 day two etc) xx

Hey, we’re in a similar boat. We’ve just started nursery - she had 4 settling in sessions and then has gone to full days the last two weeks. She is a little unsettled, and the nursery have called a couple of times saying she’s got a temperature. When we pick her up, she comes crawling over to us and starts crying - which I’m told is completely normal as they adjust to you leaving and returning. After we get home, she’s very clingy, wants to be cuddled and held and then becomes her usual self.
We’ve persevered with full days as she will have to do full days when I go back to work. It does get better! The nursery team told us that she’s now started engaging with the activities now and the staff she recognises.

Also in the same boat my girl did 5 setting in sessions starting with one hour on day one to a full day day 5. She did really well with them but yesterday when I picked her up her eyes were red and voice hoarse so I know she must have cried a lot in the day 😭 it’s so hard but my son absolutely loves nursery and started when he was the same age as her so I guess you just have to push through it and know they will get used to it and start to enjoy it after a few weeks!

Thanks for this everyone, does make me feel slightly better xx
My husband has been saying is too tired to do anything and on the weekend he gets annoyed when I ask him to me and my daughter out. He always complains and when he comes home he wants time alone. It bugs me cause he hardly spend any time with our daughter.. anyways today I said we should walk to the store near by to get groceries but told him he should go alone with our daughter cause I already walked to the store earlier and been with our daughter all day. And he got so mad saying he wants me to walk with him and he wouldn’t have agreed to walking if he knew I wasn’t going to go. Anyways he slammed the door and left. I got a text saying how he’s upset and he’s taking note of this and he is going to take his time to come back home. That was at 4:45pm.. it’s now 6pm. He turned off his location. He won’t answer my texts and calls go straight to voicemail… I’m panicking… it’s getting cold and dark out.. idk where he went. His car is still here… I’m beyond pissed and if he doesn’t come home soon I’m calling the
Police. My trust is broken right now..
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