Boundaries with toddler

My toddler acts differently with my husband and I think it's because he isn't as strict and had a lack of boundaries. If she moans or does a fake cry he gives in and gives her what she wants. In the opposite and she doesn't do it as much with me. My husband says it's just easier to give her what she wants to stop the noise but this is going to make the situation worse. The difference in parenting styles will cause issues later on and toddlers aren't stupid. They know what to get and which parent to go to to get it. Anyone else in the sane boat? It's been so tricky as her behaviour hasnt been the best tantrums galore. She gets upset if she doesn't get what she wants and it's brutal.

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Totally she has learnt act that way she gets what she wants with him. We all pacify kids at times for an easier life. U can have different styles and it be ok but then he needs to be accountable for situations he sets up. Kids need boundaries and predictability to feel safe. My lil girl pushes boundaries with me, I am OK with going through tears then reconnecting so she learns something. Hope u can find a way forward or share a resource with him that shows impact of what he is doing, she will keep doing the tears to get what she wants but all toddlers are impulse monkeys and reason isnt there often

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