When you had a baby and you decided to breast feed did you feel that nurses were pushing formula?

My baby is not even 2 days old and she's been nursing super well according to the lactation specialist. She was born by c section so weight loss is expected to be higher than by vaginal birth due to the fluids given. I'm booked into see my doctor for the baby and I and lactation consultant at the doctors yet this nurse won't stop asking if I want to give formula so she can pee more and gain back her weight fast.

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I had this for a while with my first, with my second less so because Id done it for 14 months with my first so they back off a bit 😆

I exclusively breast-fed my baby for three weeks, but had to stop because my breastmilk has no nutritional value. There’s no sugar in it and so she didn’t gain weight for three weeks. That was the only time that they had pushed formula, but it really was in the best interest of my baby. We put her on formula for seven days and she gained a pound so obviously it was me and my breastmilk that was the issue. if I were you i would be extremely stern with her and let her know that you’ve decided to exclusively breast-fed so she can stop recommending the formula to you and if you change your mind, you’ll let her know!

My milk didn’t come in till after two days, my nurses were almost forcing that colostrum out. They were pro breast milk

With my first when he lost more than 7% of his birth weight, the midwife didn't push for formula. She stated that we could top up between feeds with the colostrum that I had saved up or she said I could try pumping and feed that between nursing.

Omg you had a baby girl! I haven't been here in a while I guess. Congrats!

The nurses I had definitely pushed formula and I had to be very adamant and say no I only want to breastfeed please

My oldest dropped weight like crazy from not nursing well because of a tongue tie. We did end up giving her a couple bottles of formula until I could pump enough to feed her and get her tie released. I’d say don’t mind the nurse unless she’s not nursing well
Also congratulations!!

First of all, congratulations 🎉

My health visitor initially suggested giving some formula until my daughter started to regain the weight she had lost, but I told her I didn’t want to. She then recommended pumping and offering expressed milk in a bottle alongside continuing breastfeeding. I’m not sure why that wasn’t the first option.
Anyway, within a week she regained all the weight she had lost, and her latch improved as well.

I chose formula and they were not pushy, infact, i had to get the lactation specialist banned from my room for pushing breastfeeding so hard over and over.

1. CONGRATULATIONS 🎉🎊🎈

2. I’m sorry that your nurses are pushing that, sometimes you gotta advocate for what you want because the hospital wants to do what’s easiest for them. When my sister had a c section they gave her baby a bottle of formula before she even woke up from the anesthesia 😵‍💫 I hope they lay off you soon and respect your wishes as a mom!

In my case I felt they were pushing bottle-feeding / topping-up breast milk with formula or expressed milk. He was healthy and strong but 7% percentile (but I’m small myself) and I spent so many hours expressing and sterilising. Wish they advised to offer feeds more frequently instead 🥲

With my second - once they realised she is a second child - they said “ah you know what to do”, and did not push any opinions😂

It’s a different journey for everyone. My milk didn’t come in for 5 days so while I did put baby to breast multiple times a day I also gave infant formula bcs the midwives said he was losing alot of weight. When my milk came in I immediately stopped the formula and double downed on BF, and then EBF til 17 months xx

They actually pressed me so much to try and breast feed even brought in a lactation specialist 2-3 times switched me to their pump after I couldn’t deal w the sensitivity with my nipples and that helped a little bit, but I wasn’t able to breast-feed for too long. It was too painful and stressful so I was actually happy to switch the formula and he’s on Enfamil Neuro pro and he’s getting chunky:)

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