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11 month old only lasting half the night in his cot

Every night my 11 month old goes to bed in his cot fine. He does a fairly good 4-5 hour stretch and then wakes. Sometimes I’m lucky and he settles himself, sometimes I just need to lay him down or rub his back to settle him. But other times it’s a case of holding him until he falls into a deep sleep and transferring him.

Some nights I get lucky and he stays asleep for a few more hours but more often than not he wakes again 30-60 minutes later and we start the process again.

Then when we get to around 3/4am I’m so exhausted I take him into either my bed or my step sons bed to go sleep and the second he lays down he falls asleep! Even if I’ve not laid next to him yet. I then sleep next to him and get up at 05:30 and he continues to sleep all the way through until 7/8am

I used to think he wanted me, but the fact he can fall straight asleep without me even laying down next to him tells me differently. The only difference is the duvet/fleece blanket I put over him

How can I stop this need to go into a different bed part way through the night?