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Hey all! my husband has recently started a new job which is night shifts 9pm-7am. He works 4 on and 4 off but has said he has to stick to same sleep pattern. Not waking until 3-4pm everyday? How are we coping with this and looking after baba by ourselves completely?

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Work with baby (I'm aware that sounds weird) to get yourself and baby into a routine with sleep, feeds and nappy changes, as well as any classes you do if any. Husband will have to learn to fit into this schedule and where possible do the same schedule on his days off. I know that sounds harsh but that's how it's done with myself. My bf isn't on a pattern like your other half, he does a more normal work pattern, but he takes over when he gets home so I can do dinner and he takes over a fair amount in weekends in between a home move and swimming. Sorry if that comes across as mean

Oh I just don’t think that would run here and my other half knows it😅 there’s no need for him to be up at those late hours on his days off and sleeping in late. As far as I see it as long as he’s getting a decent amount of sleep I don’t see the issue, he can be up normal times on his days off😅

So I guess your main time together is 4pm-9pm which isn’t that different to if he was working a 9-5 I guess then it would just be 5-10 or 6-11pm? If he sleeps 7-3pm on workdays that’s 8 hours I would maybe ask he sleeps 5-1pm on a non work day so it’s not dramatically different but you get more time together? And he can take some night shifts if he’s up til 5 when he’s not working for sure!

Has he always stuck to the same sleep pattern?

My parents and sister all work(ed) nights -similar or the same to those hours and never did or do that.

All of them did days and night shifts while having kids

I remember my dad being in bed until after midday only on the days he had worked nightshift before . My sister is the same now . She actually has to stay up fro nightshift to do the school run

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