i’m about to totally lose it on my best friend

at the end of last month, my best friend cam to stay with my husband and i until our new baby is born to help with my toddler, since i’m super pregnant and struggling. but the issue is she really hasn’t helped much at all. she’s constantly annoyed with my son for picking up and playing with her things even though she leaves them within his reach despite us offering to move them to a place he can’t get to. she refuses to do dishes because it “makes her nauseous” and she doesn’t want to watch the toddler because he just cries for mama the whole time. she leaves her things all around our already small and cluttered space and in all honesty i feel disrespected in my home. i spent all night cleaning last night. i mean disinfecting and mopping and everything and by the time i wake up and come out of my bedroom the entire apartment is a complete disaster. she leaves her vapes around where my son can reach them. she dyed her hair and left the mess in the bathtub for me to get down on my hands and knees to clean up by myself at 37 weeks pregnant. i love her but i am so enraged i’ve thought about kicking her out and making her go home. i understand she doesn’t know what it’s like to be pregnant or what it’s like to be a mom but i expected HELP from her and now i’m just cleaning up after, cooking for, and taking care of another person on top of my husband and my son while heavily pregnant. i had an absolute meltdown yesterday and sobbed like i havent since i was a teenager. im so exhausted and i feel so taken advantage of and angry, betrayed, sad. i don’t know what to do anymore. she lives states away and can’t drive herself home because she doesn’t have a license. i’m losing it. please help.

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Sounds like a person who isn’t a parent themselves offered to help 😅 those people aren’t fully aware what it means to have a toddler 😅 how did she get to your place? Can’t she go back home the same way she came over?

Set boundaries with ur friend & tell her what it was that u were expecting so moving forward there is no confusion. if she can not accommodate u she needs to leave, you are about to have a baby and need to protect u and your family’s peace at all cost put those boundaries in place & don’t let her stress u out it’s not going to be helpful to ur mental state when u are going through postpartum. I am not judging or telling u what to do just trying to be as transparent as possible as I too am 37 weeks pregnant & I had to do this with my own family members who were causing me stress & from my own personal experience I feel so much better & will do it again. You got this queen stay strong 🫶🏽

I would set the boundaries or tell her she can just go back home.
I’m also 37 weeks pregnant but with my first. I can’t imagine having a toddler with no help. If she came to help, I’d TELL her “I need help.” No more asking. If she doesn’t want to help like she agreed, bye girl. You’re welcome to come visit for a day or two but you can’t stay for free and just couch surf.
That sounds exhausting for you and like she has no idea what taking care of someone actually entails.
You don’t need more mouths to feed, more dishes to do, and the vapes around your kid -come on, she shouldn’t leave that where a toddler can reach it. I’d start throwing them away. 😂

I dumped a “best friend” during pregnancy for being disrespectful. There are some characteristics I don’t need around my baby, family, or myself.
This might sound harsh. But this is a very emotional and vulnerable state we are in right now and I will do what I need to do to protect mine and my family’s peace, safety and well being.

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