Due baby no2 any day but toddler won't stay overnight at grandparents 🥲

It's stressing me out a bit, because we are due our 2nd baby any day now.

Our son used to love staying at his grandparents house overnight when he was maybe about 1 - 1.5 years old. But then my FIL got quite unwell so he hasn't stayed overnight for about a year. Tonight we thought we'd do a little sleepover to see how he'd feel about it now he's nearly 3, knowing it's a bit different since he has more awareness that his dad and I aren't there etc.

He absolutely hated it.

We told them bedtime is 7pm, my MIL called us at 7:15pm and my son was just balling his eyes out saying he wanted to come home. It broke my heart.

We only live less than 5 mins round the road so we went over to see if we could calm him down but he just clung to me as soon as we walked through the door and begged to come home. I felt so guilty.

He absolutely adores his grandparents and loves being at their house, he's there 3 or 4 times a week usually, so part of me thought he'd really enjoy a sleepover but I know its a big ask at his age.

I'm now just really worried that I go into labour and he won't be happy staying there for a night or 2.

He had everything the same, we brought all his own bedding up, his light projector, his noise machine, everything was as much the same as we could've possibly made it.

If I had to go to the hospital during the night then my in-laws would just come round to our house and probably nap on the sofa until morning and then take him back to their house. But otherwise he'd likely have to go stay with them as we don't have a spare room for them to stay at our house.

We're really lucky to have them around to look after him, I'm just so stressed about it now and worried that I'll be worrying about him whilst giving birth! 🥲

Argh I think I just had to vent about it because I'm already feeling so much mum guilt about him not being an only child anymore and all the big changes that are happening, I just didn't think this would be such a big hurdle. I felt so guilty feeling the relief in his little body when I cuddled him in his own bed and he fell asleep instantly. I know it'll hopefully only be for 1 night during labour (after that his daddy could come home if need be), but I just feel so guilty and sad about it!

We said we'd maybe try again in a few days but I don't want him to start hating visiting his grandparents out of fear his dad and I are leaving him the whole night 😬😔

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My in laws hate me

I had a falling out with my MIl earlier in the week and I’ve now discovered some horrible messages sent from her to my husband following this. Along the lines of that I’m controlling and that I’m from a broken home (I’m not) and that my previous mental health issues (an eating disorder that I’m 8 years recovered from) make me a certain way. She’s warned him to be careful of me. I’m so hurt, upset and angry. I can’t tell him that I’ve seen them but I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together 4 years and coming up to our first wedding anniversary with a 10 month old. The damage is done and I’ll never want anymore to do with them but how can we move forward when it is this broken and damaged. If his family now hate me. I’ve had a really tough week with my baby teething and I just want to walk out the front door and run away

Am I being too sensitive?

It’s my birthday today. My husband reassured me he would let his work know in advance he needed to be working locally so he could be home at a decent time for my birthday. The plan was a day to myself & then go out for dinner with my husband.

He now isn’t due to be home until around 8pm due to working 2.5hrs away. This is all because he didn’t inform work he needed to be home at a reasonable hour, despite me reminding him multiple times this week.

I’m now unable to book my favourite restaurant in case he experiences travel delays (my anxiety means I have to always book just in case). I know this isn’t a huge issue, but I’m pregnant & I’m craving food from this particular restaurant so much (and I’ve had BAD food aversions to a lot of food)!!

I also told him I’m upset because I’m going to be alone all evening. He said I should see my friends, but I don’t have the energy to. My friends also don’t know I’m pregnant yet as we’re waiting until our 12 week scan tomorrow…so being around them would be impossible when I’m feeling rubbish!

I’ve been alone all day (which doesn’t bother me), but being alone basically most of the evening too just makes me feel rubbish. It’s even more annoying because it was completely preventable. My husband has apologised and said he didn’t think working where he was working today was going to cause problems, but I’m just mad he didn’t initially listen and speak to his office out of precaution.

Am I overreacting (maybe from pregnancy hormones lol) or would this annoy you too?

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My son is about 4.5 weeks old. Most days he just sleeps on my chest most of the day, which I am okay with but I don't want to miss out on anything we should be doing. My son gets overwhelmed very easily so we usually do one "activity" a day max right now (such as bath, long walk, or having visitors). We do tummy time at least every other day, try to do every day. I read to him, sing to him, and of course talk to him. Is there anything else ya'll are doing with your LOs?

Leaving the house

Hey! Would love some advice.

I am almost 8 weeks postpartum, and had a tricky delivery, being in and out the hospital for the first 3 weeks (due retained placenta after my c section- hospital f-up, and issues with shortness of breath- which was investigated and anything serious was ruled out)

My husband has been back at work since week 4 and i have not left the house. I won’t leave unless he or someone is with me. Not even for a short walk. I have been out for appointments, but always with someone.

There isn’t much to do locally and it’s not a very nice area to go for a walk in.

I have friends with babies slightly older who want to meet up outside, but that would mean driving and finding a place i feel comfortable unloading baby from the car and having somewhere i can comfortably breastfeed.

I honestly don’t know if this is normal or if i should be pushing myself more.

Can you love being mum and at the same time cry because it’s difficult and you’re tired of it?

I’m trying to explain this to my husband but I don’t know how. I am crying all the time because It’s exhausting but I really love being my little ones mum. Can the two coexist or am I just an emotional mess?

Do you think cursive is important for your kids to learn?

In a world where everything is in printed letters now, cursive is going more and more out of style in schools. Im 30 and i only had 2 weeks of cursive my entire school career back then. I feel like cursive is important because i hate the idea of having to use a translation to read historical documents like the US Constitution or the Magna Carta. I want my kid to be able to read the documents as written instead of trusting a translation that could have wording changed or is just a summary.