Hey! Would love some advice.
I am almost 8 weeks postpartum, and had a tricky delivery, being in and out the hospital for the first 3 weeks (due retained placenta after my c section- hospital f-up, and issues with shortness of breath- which was investigated and anything serious was ruled out)
My husband has been back at work since week 4 and i have not left the house. I won’t leave unless he or someone is with me. Not even for a short walk. I have been out for appointments, but always with someone.
There isn’t much to do locally and it’s not a very nice area to go for a walk in.
I have friends with babies slightly older who want to meet up outside, but that would mean driving and finding a place i feel comfortable unloading baby from the car and having somewhere i can comfortably breastfeed.
I honestly don’t know if this is normal or if i should be pushing myself more.
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I would start with making plans at someone else's house so you can get used to just leaving the house first but still ask them for a private place to nurse. Then gradually add on as you feel comfortable

Leaving the house with a newborn is tough. There's nothing wrong with taking it slow. You're still healing. Especially considering your complications. Don't be hard on yourself. You got this! 💗

Don't be hard on yourself!! I'm 11 weeks postpartum and still haven't left the house with baby on my own!
Take your time until you feel comfortable!! Next week will be 12 weeks and that is when I plan on going out.

It’s daunting going out by yourself at first! Don’t worry. Try something small like literally a 5 minute walk around the block to build up your confidence. Be honest with your friends and just say you’re not ready yet. You’ll get there

One step at a time but I promise you it gets so much easier everytime. It will help your confidence grow too. Could you start by driving to tesco go to a quiet bit of the car park even take baby out and in just to get used to it then maybe go in the shop the next time you will smash it and people are there if you need help you've got this x

I only felt comfortable + confident going out by myself at 11/12 weeks. Give yourself time, it will come x

I've been going to play groups at local churches, shopping and appointments from 2 weeks but I understand the anxiety. With my first that initial trip put alone was daunting. Felt like something to fragile was relying on me with so many unknowns. The more you do it the more confidence you get.
I find getting ready with a toddler and newborn almost impossible. Getting everyone dressed, washed, fed and toileted/changed at the same time is a battle. We rarely make it out before lunchtime!